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Re: Call from an Ex
Apr 23, 2005
[QUOTE=SophiaM]Hey Nini, I did miss you, actually! Was wondering what you've been doing in the meantime. Aaah, I always get misunderstood. I am not looking for the "strong, silent type" either (sounds like a serial killer to me! :eek: ). Just a normal guy who doesn't fall into any extremes. I want him to be able to have a conversation and express his emotions when appropriate--just not be the "verbal diarrhea" kind of person. Maybe a 'bad boy' was a bad term to use here. What I mean is someone who can be playful and can tease me sometimes, and not boring. It's hard for me to explain. Someone with a spark, who has a good heart inside but can ACT like a 'bad boy' in certain situations, not a saintly type of guy to put on a pedestal. I dated guys in their late 30s and 40s but they weren't any different from the younger ones. Probably even more commitmentphobic, if you can believe it. My very first boyfriend is now 44 and still cannot "take that leap" with anyone.[/QUOTE]

Hi Sophia,
I just wanted to let you know that not only are you intelligent, articulate, kind and compassionate, I think you have a great sense of humor. I was reading through one of the other long posts (the one from the woman that only sees her boyfriend 3 hours a week, is cheap, works every day, etc, etc and she was wondering if she should marry him, and your replies are so funny at times that I laughed out loud at work. You deserve someone wonderful. Who ever gets you is going to be SO LUCKY!!!!!
I think you have so much to offer that it just makes it a little more difficult to find someone that is a good match. Don't give up.
The other thing I wanted to tell you is that don't necessarily discount someone because they talk alot.( Unless of course they sound like an idiot!!) My husband talks far more than I do, but he has one of the most kindest hearts. He is also very romantic. Sure, sometimes he drives me a little nutty with all his banter, but he loves me to pieces and thinks I'm the best thing since sliced bread!! I'm just saying, give someone a chance if you are attracted to them. I think that a guy that does not talk very much, may not be able to give of themselves emotionally.
When I fell in love both times in my life, I thought about breaking up with them after a few weeks. Within a few more months, I was deeply in love with both of them. Of course, if there are traits that you don't like, that is one thing. Sometimes it takes awhile for both people to open up to each other and be themselves. I do think there has to be an initial physical attraction. If you are not physically attracted to them, from my experience that does not change. There has to be that spark!!
Hey, speaking of spark, it sounds like you may be going out with the European guy after all. Make sure you bring a box of tissues!! Is he over his cold?
Good Luck!!! :)
Re: Call from an Ex
Apr 24, 2005
[QUOTE=BLUE EYED LADY]Hi Sophia,
I just wanted to let you know that not only are you intelligent, articulate, kind and compassionate, I think you have a great sense of humor. I was reading through one of the other long posts (the one from the woman that only sees her boyfriend 3 hours a week, is cheap, works every day, etc, etc and she was wondering if she should marry him, and your replies are so funny at times that I laughed out loud at work. You deserve someone wonderful. Who ever gets you is going to be SO LUCKY!!!!!
I think you have so much to offer that it just makes it a little more difficult to find someone that is a good match. Don't give up.
The other thing I wanted to tell you is that don't necessarily discount someone because they talk alot.( Unless of course they sound like an idiot!!) My husband talks far more than I do, but he has one of the most kindest hearts. He is also very romantic. Sure, sometimes he drives me a little nutty with all his banter, but he loves me to pieces and thinks I'm the best thing since sliced bread!! I'm just saying, give someone a chance if you are attracted to them. I think that a guy that does not talk very much, may not be able to give of themselves emotionally.
When I fell in love both times in my life, I thought about breaking up with them after a few weeks. Within a few more months, I was deeply in love with both of them. Of course, if there are traits that you don't like, that is one thing. Sometimes it takes awhile for both people to open up to each other and be themselves. I do think there has to be an initial physical attraction. If you are not physically attracted to them, from my experience that does not change. There has to be that spark!!
Hey, speaking of spark, it sounds like you may be going out with the European guy after all. Make sure you bring a box of tissues!! Is he over his cold?
Good Luck!!! :)[/QUOTE]

Thank you for having faith in me BlueEyes! Well, things have turned completely upside down since yesterday. I went out with the European and some of his friends to a party, at which he pretty much ignored me and flirted with other girls. Bottom line is, I found out (in secret) from the European guy's friend that he has a serious girlfriend in Europe and will be moving back there permanently in just a few months. So that's that with him. Not only is he a player but a cheater too (insert triple puke sound here). On the other hand, his friend, whom I had met before, seems to like me very much and wants to go out with me next week. He's not as handsome as the first guy, but seems a lot nicer and genuine, and he was the one keeping me company for most of the party. So that's the new development. We'll see what happens.





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