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:wave: Hello everyone who reads these different posts.

A bit like the previous thread: IS IT OVER or is there hope....

My boyfriend has an EX that he used to date. She is engaged to get married this coming June.

Well he never told me but last weekend her and her fiance were visiting him at his house (I was there for the weekend) and she said that she used to live at his house right in front of all 4 of us.

The following week (via messenger) I told him what she said and he said he never lived with her and he wondered why she would say that and he would tell her what I had said, so I told him to go ahead that I DID NOT not HEAR THAT. So later in the week he brought the subject up and said he talked to her and she told him to pass a message onto me that I should get my hearing checked (YA RIGHT). So I told him that next time he would be telling me that the bird that just flew by I did not see.

My bf told me that when they were dating she had wanted to move in and live with him but he told her no because of the reasons why they had broken up in the first place. He ended the bf/gf relationship because of her baggage (that is what he told me months ago - he repeated the same reasons to me just recently).

Well, last weekend he needed work clothes fixed (via a sewing machine), so when her and her fiancee were over visiting she took one and said she would find a machine and fix it. I had told him if he wanted his other 2 done I could get my mom to do it. He said sure, but when she and her fiancee came back later in the weekend, he went downstairs and got them and gave them to her for her to do.

About 3 weeks before this went down he had asked me to pick him up a sewing machine that was on sale (it was not out of my way to get on the drive out to see him - we live about 1 1/4 hrs away from each other - and his x lives with her fiance about 1 hr away but they both have relatives in the same town as my bf).

So I picked up the sewing machine and he paid me, and just last weekend she and her fiancee were back visiting my bf (I was there) and she put the bobber and thread on it and got it fixed up then she aggressivly stared at me and said: "Now when he(my bf) needs sewing done I can come in this house and do it for him".

That is the scoop and I feel IT IS VERY WEIRD. My thoughts are she has not let go of my bf and for some reason either has he.

MY CONCERN IS POSSIBLE SAFETY ISSUES. I HAVE NO IDEA. ANY THOUGHTS ON THIS. Her and her fiancee have stored alot of their stuff in my bf's house and in his garage and on his backyard.

ANY FEEDBACK WOULD BE GREATLY APPRECIATED.

Thanks
:) :rolleyes: :angel:
[QUOTE=LoveLife88]Well he never told me but last weekend her and her fiance were visiting him at his house (I was there for the weekend) and she said that she used to live at his house right in front of all 4 of us.

The following week (via messenger) I told him what she said and he said he never lived with her and he wondered why she would say that and he would tell her what I had said, so I told him to go ahead that I DID NOT not HEAR THAT. So later in the week he brought the subject up and said he talked to her and she told him to pass a message onto me that I should get my hearing checked (YA RIGHT). So I told him that next time he would be telling me that the bird that just flew by I did not see.

My bf told me that when they were dating she had wanted to move in and live with him but he told her no because of the reasons why they had broken up in the first place. He ended the bf/gf relationship because of her baggage (that is what he told me months ago - he repeated the same reasons to me just recently).

Well, last weekend he needed work clothes fixed (via a sewing machine), so when her and her fiancee were over visiting she took one and said she would find a machine and fix it. I had told him if he wanted his other 2 done I could get my mom to do it. He said sure, but when she and her fiancee came back later in the weekend, he went downstairs and got them and gave them to her for her to do.

About 3 weeks before this went down he had asked me to pick him up a sewing machine that was on sale (it was not out of my way to get on the drive out to see him - we live about 1 1/4 hrs away from each other - and his x lives with her fiance about 1 hr away but they both have relatives in the same town as my bf).

So I picked up the sewing machine and he paid me, and just last weekend she and her fiancee were back visiting my bf (I was there) and she put the bobber and thread on it and got it fixed up then she aggressivly stared at me and said: "Now when he(my bf) needs sewing done I can come in this house and do it for him".

That is the scoop and I feel IT IS VERY WEIRD. My thoughts are she has not let go of my bf and for some reason either has he.

MY CONCERN IS POSSIBLE SAFETY ISSUES. I HAVE NO IDEA. ANY THOUGHTS ON THIS. Her and her fiancee have stored alot of their stuff in my bf's house and in his garage and on his backyard.[/QUOTE]
I'm quite confused here.
You said she made this comment in front of all 4 of you. I assume that means you, your bf, her and her fiancee? :confused:
Then you say the next week you told him what she said. Wasn't he there when she said it? Why did you have to tell him? And why is it an issue whether or not they lived together? Just trying to understand.

As it is, on my current level of understanding, I must be naive, because I don't see a huge problem. After all, he is with you not her. She is with her fiancee, not him.
Being in touch since the breakup, I would think if they wanted to be together, they would be. Apparently he does not want to be with her, regardless of her feelings. I don't think it matters if she's hung up on him or not, if he doesn't want to be with her. That is HER issue and HER problem.
Why make her issues a problem in YOUR relationship?

I don't see where he's hung up on her. Like I said, if he wanted to be with her he would be. Just going off what the majority of posters say here on this board - that if a guy wanted to be with a particular girl, that is where he would be.
The sewing the clothes issue - I'm seeing it as she was there, so he just gave them to her to get done. Maybe a simple matter of convenience?
If you said your mom would do it, but didn't take them with you to give to your mom, maybe he thought you weren't going to. So the ex was there, he wanted them sewn, so he gave them to her.

If you feel she's acting some type of way towards you, I'd simply disregard her. After all, he is choosing to be with YOU, not her. I'd think that is all the more you need.

The way I am reading this, this doesn't need to be a problem at all. But if you wish to make an issue out of it, it certainly will become one.

I apologize for any inaccuracies in my reply, please clarify anything I got wrong.





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