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[QUOTE=marcen]It's me, Julia_Girl. I had to change my screenname.

Well, I am about to leave and will not have internet for a long while. I wanted to say thanks for all your support. I know I have a hard head!

My ex never did come down and take me out for dinner. He said he is too busy to say goodbye. I have been good about not calling (he has continued to call me once a week like he said he would). I had to call him today because I have an apartment full of his stuff and have to be out by 3. It does sound like he is being run off his feet right now with his new business. He was quite short on the phone and told me I don't understand how busy he has been. I told him I had just wanted to say goodbye because he was someone who had meant a lot to me. I cried a bit unfortunately, I didn't want to but I couldn't help it. I think he mainly isn't coming to say goodbye because he doesn't want to face me upset. He said that it isn't because I don't mean anything to him. I don't know - it just seems so final. I want to believe this really is time and space, but I don't think he is thinking about anything but work right now and I don't see that changing for a long time. Do you think he will think about me? I have tried to be so strong and then I go and cry and I am so worried that he will just have this vision of me crying in his head for the rest of his life and not miss me at all. He said he will be calling me over the summer so we shall see. He definitely is not wanting to talk about anything right now. I am trying to decide whether or not to leave him a little note before I go, just saying that I hoped everything with his business settles down soon and that he has a good summer. Part of me thinks this is a bad idea, especially as he hasn't even congratulated me on my graduation. but I don't want to seem bitter either. Opinions?
Thanks again to everyone. I am sorry if I have seemed to not take the advice that has been given at times. I just love this guy so much, and even though he has often not treated me well, it is hard for me to forget his good qualities. Emotions trump logic at times, and I have just wanted things to work out between us so badly.[/QUOTE]

Marcen (JG), I'm sorry we won't be hearing from you again for a while, but I hope you manage to find the time to pop in and say howdy every once in a while!

I wish you much luck on your new life and your new endeavors. Regarding leaving him a note, well, it's just my 2 cents, but I think a clean break is what you need right now. Even if you guys do find your way back to each other some day, you can't plan your life around that now, so a clean break is best, and why not start now? The truth is, no one, man or woman, is ever too busy to talk to or say goodbye to someone they really really love and care about. Like it says in He's Just Not That Into You, " 'busy' doesn't mean better. It's just another way of saying 'you're not important.'" What with school and work and all the other things that come up in life, have you ever been too busy to call him? If the situation were reversed, would you ever be too busy to say goodbye to him? It's just something men say when they don't want to be bothered. It's hard and it hurts like heck, I know, but stick to your guns. Make a clean break and look at this as a fresh, exciting new chapter in your life. The wound is still deep and fresh, and I know it's not that easy, but hang in there. I know you'll be ok. :angel:

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