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I would love to use the boyfriend story, but I have a VERY nosy family and they all know all too well that I do not have a boyfriend---so that wouldn't work as far as my cousin believing it. Also, he has probably recently asked my cousin's husband if I am still single, so he probably knows that I am and that I would be lying if I said that I have a boyfriend.

In addition to all of that I know some other people (whom I saw just last weekend) that will be at the concert too and they all know also that I do not have a boyfriend (it is not a huge concert so I will see them there). In other words--apparently ( & VERY unfortunately) EVERYONE knows that I am single.

I guess I am just going to have to try to initiate conversation with the others and try to avoid this guy as much as I can. He always acts so nice so there is no way that I could be knowingly rude to him. Everyone else is always talking about how nice he is and that they wish he could find a nice girl. I know this sounds mean but I just am not going to be that girl! He always squeezes in beside me to sit by me and then he starts talking to me non-stop asking if we could go out sometime and then asking me all kinds of other questions. In the past I have always made up excuses for not being able to go out with him and one time he asked for my number and I did not give it to him, yet he still acts the same towards me---wanting to go out and all of that.

Him acting this way just makes me not like him even more---if he would just act like a friend instead of being so pushy it wouldn't be so bad being around him. I just don't know how to let him know that I am not interested (other than what I have already done) without hurting his feelings and sounding rude. I do not want the other friends talking about me and saying that I am a mean person.
I know---just thinking about having to deal with him just makes me not even want to go to the concert. I hate situations like this! I guess if he continues to act pushy this weekend then I will have to say something. I am just so worried about looking or sounding rude. I don't want everyone to think that I think that he is not good enough for me or something like that. I heard them talking about this one girl that did not like him and that is how they made her sound--that she thought she was better than him. I just wish that I really did have a boyfriend so that I would not have to deal with this sort of thing!!! Times like this is when I REALLY hate being single!
[QUOTE=glamourgal]I know---just thinking about having to deal with him just makes me not even want to go to the concert. I hate situations like this! I guess if he continues to act pushy this weekend then I will have to say something. I am just so worried about looking or sounding rude. I don't want everyone to think that I think that he is not good enough for me or something like that. I heard them talking about this one girl that did not like him and that is how they made her sound--that she thought she was better than him. I just wish that I really did have a boyfriend so that I would not have to deal with this sort of thing!!! Times like this is when I REALLY hate being single![/QUOTE]

Oh dear, I know what you mean! It's like, because you're single, you don't have a say in anything and should settle for WHOEVER - and of course be grateful that anyone at all is showing an interest in you! Oh, please. :rolleyes:

You absolutely have every right to decide who you want to be with and be proud that you're not one of those women who are desperate for a man - ANY man. And if people give you a tough time about that, tell them that it is none of their business. You don't have to justify yourself.

As for "not-getting-the-message" guy: sounds like harrassment, the way you are putting it. You don't have to tolerate that, so don't worry so much about being nice to him. Set him straight once and for all - otherwise he'll just continue. You might even tell him that his behavior is a huge turn off and that he'll never get that "nice girl" he's looking for this way - but that would be as a last resort, I guess. Good luck! - CC :wave:





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