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LittleRose1982, what you are going through right now has to one of the best feeling a human being can feel! That instant chemistry makes you feel like your on top of the world and everything seems a little brighter and more meaningful in life, doesn't it? I've been there myself a few times and I'd have to say they were some of the best days of my life. Enjoy these days with him because you don't get too many chances in life to feel this way. So anyway, onto my advice...

So everything is going great between you two and you want to make sure that you "close the deal" so to speak. From a guys perspective, somewhere, somehow, in some way, men are taught to let the GIRL make the advances in the relationship. The thing is the WOMAN is really in control of where the relationship is gonna go most of the time...the guy is kinda just along for the ride. However, you've only dated him about a week so I think it may be a bit too soon to break out the "let's be together" speech.

The thing is, there seems to be a very fine line between making the move too soon and looking desperate and waiting too long and looking disinterested. In my experience, you need to have a good, solid 4 to maybe 5 dates before that question should come up. The reason I say to wait a little longer is because it takes time to develop those kinds of strong relationship feelings...right now you are still in a very "I'm trying to learn as much as I can about this person" kind of stage. Give it a little time. If he really likes you, he will definitely do one of two things....A.) Keep asking you out and wait until you ask him or B.) Come out and just ask you himself! Either way, you win, right? Most likely though he is gonna wait for YOU to bring it up but be cool about it.

You gotta make him want it badly...you know what I mean? See if he wants to stick around long haul and PLEASE...whatever you do...don't have sex with him until you've made it official. I hate saying this to you because I don't want to make it seem like I'm accusing you of being promiscuous or something, but truthfully, THE BEST WAY FOR A GIRL TO MAKE SURE TO NEVER HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH A MAN, IS TO SLEEP WITH HIM TOO SOON. Guys tend to lose respect after something like that happens...It just makes the guy not take you seriously anymore. Of course, holding back in the bedroom early on is a great way to test what this guy is really all about too. If he REALLY wants to be with you, he will be ok with it. Good luck with him...I hope it works out great!





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