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My girlfriend has admitted to having a Personality Disorder. Weve been together for nearly 4 years, shes dumped me 3 times before but we got straight back together each time. Sometimes i wonder whether it was through guilt or love. We live apart, have to travel 20 miles to see each other. Here is a description of someone with a Paranoid Personality Disorder:

"Paranoid personality disorder is characterized by a distrust of others and a constant suspicion that people around you have sinister motives. People with this disorder tend to have excessive trust in their own knowledge and abilities and usually avoid close relationships with others. They search for hidden meanings in everything and read hostile intentions into the actions of others. They are quick to challenge the loyalties of friends and loved ones and often appear cold and distant to others. They usually shift blame to others and tend to carry long grudges."

She has very little time for me lately, her job has become her number one priority. I was set up a few weeks ago, but im still unsure whether it was real, not real and why she did it. She has Internet profiles. In real life shes been hanging with another guy called Gary who she claims is just a friend. I do believe her and do fully trust her. But then i came across the initial "G" all over her profile in categories such as favourite animal and favourite person. I cant describe the hurt i felt at seeing that. I confronted her over the phone and asked why she wrote it. She said she doesnt use the profiles anymore, but she must because they only get updated when she comes online. In the end she said "why do people always fall for the bait". Said some very disturbing things towards me, in the end I had to apologise. I dont know whether this was a set up or whether its real. Maybe she wanted to see if I trusted her but i feel this was unfair. Or maybe its real but the only way she could cover it was to make me out to be the bad guy. Surely anyone who seen this would be shocked and think "what?". She tells me stories all the time over the phone about them spending time with each other, things like "gary gave me a big hug today i needed it", "gary bit me on neck", stuff like that. Its all Gary, Gary, Gary, she hardly ever talks about me or "us". Shes going to work with him tomorrow, hes a lorry driver. Shes getting up for 6:30 till 9 at night. So basically spending the whole day with him. She accused me of spying on her because i went on the profile. But the only reason i checked it was because id just made her a website and wanted to see if she linked it to her profile. I wish i hadnt of looked at it. I find that the description above matches whats happened and i want to know how to cope with this? Im trying desperately hard to be there for her, give her anything she wants but sometimes i feel she doesnt wanna know me. This year has been a terrible year for our relationship, the past 3 years have been fantastic. This year is just confusing the hell out of me and its scary. Any advice would be appreciated, im finding it difficult to talk to her with the way shes being with me. She keeps bringing things up in conversations and then says she cant tell me whatever it is shes talking about. Im like "why tell me then?". Its like a tease, i dont know what to make of it all. She'll say something like "I need to tell my mom something but i dont know how to tell her, she'll go belistic". I said "whats the problem?". She said the usual "I cant tell you", etc. Shes also become very "all for herself", which is unlike her. Before she always said "shut up" when i said "you look gorgeous". But now shes always talking about the attention she gets, the way all the guys think shes really hot, how guys make moves on her, etc. And quotes stuff like "who would turn this down?". Hopefully someone can give me a few props. I dont want to lose her, i love her very much just want things to go back to how they were before.

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