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[QUOTE=gamecock360]This is just all frustrating. I care about this man a great deal but he always seems to be sooo busy and he will tell you he is. I am not sure how a person could be so busy. We had chatted about getting together and I mentioned about playing video games and just sitting and talking and he says he has a lot going on the next couple weeks. I am tired tonight so I guess that is why I am thinking about it but I really miss him. I hate feeling like this because I know he is stopping his day thinking about me. I dunno I just think he and I would make a great pair but he has chose back in May not to date me at this point so I guess i need to move on. It's just hard when you still care for someone. Who knows...maybe he does care for me and his actions ARE just because he is that extremely busy. I need to be more confident I guess. :confused:[/QUOTE]

I couldn't agree more with Evy's comments. I would strongly recommend that you read the book "He's Just Not That Into You." I know some people don't like it, but the basic message is one that would save so many women endless hours of analyzing and wondering if a man is interested. But when it comes down to it, if a man wants to be with you, he will make every effort to demonstrate that consistently each and every day. If he's not taking you out, he's not that into you. Same if he's not sleeping with you or treating you like his girlfriend. The sad truth is that men are more simple than we think--when women describe them as complicated or confused, that really means that the guy isn't interested but is trying to avoid coming right out and saying it. Gamecock, I really think you should move on...if he wanted to be with you, he would, and you wouldn't have to pursue him or wonder if he liked you as more than a friend. If he wanted you, you'd know it--you deserve a man who is crazy about you and whose behavior never makes you question his desire to be with you. Let this one go and start dating some new guys. As far as the end of your post goes, while it's always good to be as confident as possible, that won't change the way he feels. He very well might care for you, but he's making it obvious that he doesn't want to date you, so please stop torturing yourself by wondering what's going on. He's making his feelings very clear without coming out and telling you bluntly that he's not interested in a romantic involvement with you--trust me, when guys call me and I don't want to date them, I tell them the exact same thing about being really busy and unable to get together for several weeks. But when it comes to guys I like, I can always find time to see them, and the same is true for men. You deserve someone who won't leave any doubt in your mind about his intentions--why not go find him and stop wasting time thinking about a guy who isn't interested anymore? I'm sorry if this sounds blunt, but I don't think it would benefit you whatsoever if people who reply to your thread encourage you to keep thinking there is hope for a rekindled relationship with this guy. You clearly have a lot to offer, and I'll bet it won't be long before you find someone who's dying to spend as much time as possible with you.

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