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Hello all that have been following the post about my boyfriend/fiances parents getting him into some financal debt with a couple of his credit cards. This is another "long" post so bare with..

I just got back from being on well deserved vacation with my guy and a group of friends. And it was a HUGE relief to get away from his mother and every other stress factor.

Well a little more has happened. His sister is having a baby. And she is actually early but they expect the baby by the middle of the up coming week.

Well I was at work yesterday my boyfriend called me and said "there's a 99% chance that my sister is having her baby today!!" (im gonna be in the room when it happens) so he asked if there was anyway someone could cover me so I could be there. I pulled some strings and was able to go about an hour or so later. I get up there and she's having contractions and stuff but to make this short, she didnt have the baby infact she went home! (still assume it'll be out by middle of the week though).

Well this upset me because It caused me to miss work and money that is much needed. He apologized and said he was sorry his mom gave him the wrong information. That's her drama queen image. It's reminding me how much I didnt miss this crap while I was gone. The night we got back my guys sister was already at the hospital so we went there this is at 3am after an 11hour layover getting home!

And even there she started bickering with my guys brother about him using the car and the cell phone (both of which arent hers to bicker about!)So my boyfriend made a comment and we left.

Now yesterday while "waiting" for this baby to pop out the debt factor came up. And she gets all emotional about "i wont wanna talk about this" And it started eating up my stomach again. I finally talked more with my guy about it.

Last night I told him I was having my doubts about his parents getting this paid off quickly. So far they have made 3 payments of 80.00 which is great but there is still another card being added next week.

He keeps telling me he's got in under control and they have to pay it. I reminded him its in his name and I can see them stopping because they were "shy-stee" enough not to tell him about it in the first place.

Well first he gets ticked at me for calling them "shy-stee" . Yeah i can see why, I should have used another word. Then he asked if I've talked to my mom about this (he asked me not to tell anyone). I told him I have and that I was sorry but this has been eating away at my stomach and I needed someone to vent too because i knew I couldnt talk to him about it the way I can vent to my own mother!

So then he's disapointed in me! I feel like im in a no win situation.

Earlier in the day I asked him "when do I get my ring I'd like it soon" (yeah i know...no ring so its somewhat un-official right?). He gets upset, I have other things to pay for right now. I have a trip in august, Im going to this game in december, im doing this at that time. So that upset me...I want my ring a little while b4 we get married so I can show the thing off! So later on he asked if i was thinking of postponing the wedding date, I told him I might but dont want to because I wont be able to find another date open in summer at the place I want it at!

so we left on sour terms, but did talk a little bit later. He said he called to make sure I wasnt upset with him b4 he went to sleep. But when i asked if he was still upset with me he said he was disapointed still and will have to get over it. To me it's like he called so he could sleep but left me hanging, granted I had no problem falling asleep because i know what I said was true. And talking to my mom is what I had to do. I should have told him, but i figured he wouldnt get as upset as he did.

I think I need a perminant vacation to get away from this...





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