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Ok, this is probably trivial, but because I was badly burned in some relationships in the past, I don't want to repeat the same mistake and make excuses for anything. My new guy who I've been dating for a bit over 1.5 months has been really great so far and we had a nice holiday weekend together. He's not the most verbally generous but he's doing little things for me which make me think he cares. After this last weekend he called every day, but didn't mention anything about this weekend. During the week we're both too busy to go out, so I was really looking forward to seeing him this coming weekend. But when he called me earlier today, he hasn't mentioned anything again, so I asked him if he was coming to the city, and he said probably not. He said it was his grandparents' anniversary and he's going there on Sat. to have dinner with them, and on Friday he had already made plans with people from work. He didn't mention anything about Sunday, but I figured if he wanted to see me badly, he would offer that himself. Then he asks me a stupid question what I am doing this weekend. Obviously, I didn't make any plans because the last three weekends we did something together, so I just kind of assumed we'd do something again. Besides, most of my friends have boyfriends and the people I work with are married, so most likely I won't be doing anything other than hanging out by myself this weekend. That's partially why I wanted my own boyfriend to begin with, so that I have nice company on weekends and I no longer have to be alone or the third wheel at other couples' outings.

I can't help but feel disappointed :( He also made some sarcastic remark about being stuck in traffic for two hours after driving me home last Sunday night, but then again, it takes me two hours to get to his place by train too and I am not complaining. I wonder if that means he's maybe getting scared or tired of the distance. Should I bring it up if he feels this way, or just let it go for now? What makes me kind of irritated is that I think he was inconsiderate in not at least telling me in advance about his fully planned weekend. If I hadn't asked, was he just going to not say anything? I want a guy who is absolutely crazy about me and can't wait to see me, and this NG's behavior doesn't demonstrate that to me. He didn't say anything about going out next week, either. Could this be a sign things might go downhill from here? I don't want to drag it out if he doesn't want to deal with the distance (which isn't so bad in my opinion), or doesn't want a close relationship for whatever other reason.
[QUOTE=SophiaM]Ok, this is probably trivial, but because I was badly burned in some relationships in the past, I don't want to repeat the same mistake and make excuses for anything. My new guy who I've been dating for a bit over 1.5 months has been really great so far and we had a nice holiday weekend together. He's not the most verbally generous but he's doing little things for me which make me think he cares. After this last weekend he called every day, but didn't mention anything about this weekend. During the week we're both too busy to go out, so I was really looking forward to seeing him this coming weekend. But when he called me earlier today, he hasn't mentioned anything again, so I asked him if he was coming to the city, and he said probably not. He said it was his grandparents' anniversary and he's going there on Sat. to have dinner with them, and on Friday he had already made plans with people from work. He didn't mention anything about Sunday, but I figured if he wanted to see me badly, he would offer that himself. Then he asks me a stupid question what I am doing this weekend. Obviously, I didn't make any plans because the last three weekends we did something together, so I just kind of assumed we'd do something again. Besides, most of my friends have boyfriends and the people I work with are married, so most likely I won't be doing anything other than hanging out by myself this weekend. That's partially why I wanted my own boyfriend to begin with, so that I have nice company on weekends and I no longer have to be alone or the third wheel at other couples' outings.

I can't help but feel disappointed :( He also made some sarcastic remark about being stuck in traffic for two hours after driving me home last Sunday night, but then again, it takes me two hours to get to his place by train too and I am not complaining. I wonder if that means he's maybe getting scared or tired of the distance. Should I bring it up if he feels this way, or just let it go for now? What makes me kind of irritated is that I think he was inconsiderate in not at least telling me in advance about his fully planned weekend. If I hadn't asked, was he just going to not say anything? I want a guy who is absolutely crazy about me and can't wait to see me, and this NG's behavior doesn't demonstrate that to me. He didn't say anything about going out next week, either. Could this be a sign things might go downhill from here? I don't want to drag it out if he doesn't want to deal with the distance (which isn't so bad in my opinion), or doesn't want a close relationship for whatever other reason.[/QUOTE]





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