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discussion title: Did I do the right thing?
message #: 10619.1
from: bellahopes
date: 3:03 pm
replies: 1
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Hi! I had been "dating" this guy for 3 months. We had met 2 years ago at a bar and had been running into each other ever since. We went home together one night but NEVER had sex. He called me that very day. We would meet each other out and hang out together at each others houses. We never went on an official date in 3 months. Right before he met me he broke up w/his girlfiend of over a year. They broke up because she wanted to get married and have kids and he didn't want that w/her. About a month ago I started getting irritated because he never took me out on an official date just the two of us. When I confronted him about this he told me that if he took me out to all these places that he was afraid that I would assume that we were boyfriend/girlfiend. You see he had always been honest w/me before and had told me that he didn't want a girlfriend right now because he just got out of a relationship. I told him that I needed time to think about what I wanted. I left for vacation that next morning. I was gone for 3 days and the day before I came home he called me to tell me that he missed me. We never had sex only oral during these 3 months . I couldn't do it without a commitment. The other day I met him out and he was obviously flirting w/ a girl right in front of me. I let him know what I picked up on and he denied it and said she was his friend's girlfriends friend and had a boyfriend. I basically told him that I needed to end things w/him because I needed a commitment. He said that he told me that he just got out of a relationship and didn't want a girlfriend and asked me why I wanted to make things complicated. I then told him that I thought we needed to end things. I told him that if I really meant that much to him it wouldn't matter that he just got out of a relationship. He asked me if he could still call me and I said NO. He asked why and I said because I had feelings for him and I couldn't talk to him because I had feelings. It would be too hard. He said okay and did admit that he had feelings too. He said that he told me from the start that he didn't want a girlfriend but he actually waited until I was ready to have sex w/him before he told me. Why wait till then? This really should have been told to me from the first couple weeks of talking. My question is was I correct in saying that no matter if he just got out of a relationship just before he met me if I was worth it he would make it work whether he was ready for a commitment or not.....right? Also, why would he still want to call me if he couldn't commit to me. Do you think he'll call eventhough I said for him not to? Please give me any input....Thank you!

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