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Re: Mixed Feelings
Jul 22, 2005
I agree with Greeneyes that you should have a certain amount of physical attraction for it to develop into a relationship. How long have you been dating this guy? Perhaps three dates is not enough, but I would say if you don't feel any desire to kiss him or touch him for no reason after you've been dating him for a month, it's just probably not in you. Some people are just meant to be friends, not lovers. For me, I would usually know pretty quickly if there's a potential for being attracted to a guy or not. There was one guy I'm still good friends with who always wanted to date me, even said numerous times he would marry me, and I've contemplated that in some of my more desperate moments, but I realized that it would never work. How can you have a relationship with someone when even the thought of kissing them or seeing them naked repulses you? Do you think he repulses you physically, or you're simply not sure at this point how strong your attraction is, but overall you find him appealing?
Re: Mixed Feelings
Jul 25, 2005
[QUOTE=DivaDevilition]
I always thought you had to be extremely attracted to someone for a relationship to happen but it's not true.[/QUOTE]

I don't understand how you can fall for someone romantically without being physically attracted. Perhaps, after you get to know them mentally, you become more physically attracted. I don't see how you could have a good sex life if there was not a mutual physical attraction (of some kind).

Maybe you are right about not having to be "extremely attracted", which I think has a lot truth to it.
Re: Mixed Feelings
Jul 25, 2005
[QUOTE=greeneyes100]I don't understand how you can fall for someone romantically without being physically attracted. Perhaps, after you get to know them mentally, you become more physically attracted. I don't see how you could have a good sex life if there was not a mutual physical attraction (of some kind).

Maybe you are right about not having to be "extremely attracted", which I think has a lot truth to it.[/QUOTE]

I think she means that you don't have to be extremely attracted to someone from the start. You can find something attractive about the person, but not be completely "gaga" over them from the first meeting. Then, as you get to know them and spend more time together, the attraction grows et voila--you and up being crazy in love with them! :D It does happen, but I still think there has to be some initial attraction that you can build upon. Oh, and the friend who was trying to date me is cute also, but to me he's very feminine looking and acting. I just don't consider him "manly" in my eyes, and so I could never imagine being anything more than a friend.





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