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Thanks Dear Aunt GE. I think I will just have to feel down for a couple of days over this. I hate it because I don't like to hold a grudge, and am generally eager to resolve any conflict soon, but my ex is very "sensitive" and he holds a grudge for a long time over minor things.

Oh, it was something very stupid, really. Basically he was elevating himself in so many words saying what a great guy he was and how my previous roommate was jealous of me because I was dating a guy like him. He always says the same things and that, together with other comments how if I "hadn't screwed things up with him in the past, I would now have a wonderful life and travel the world with him," made me extremely irritated, so I said something like "Oh phuuleease, don't flatter yourself so much." I guess it's more the way I said it than what I said. But I couldn't help it--his comments just annoyed me so much because he tries to make me feel like I'm the only one that screwed our relationship up and I now have to suffer as a consequence. So, basically the evening just went downhill from there. I called him the next morning and apologized for what I said, but it seems that he's already in his pouting mode and might remain in it for the next...I don't know...a year??? He wouldn't pick up the phone when I tried to call and then hung up on me. Is it just me, or was it a relatively minor thing?? I don't think I would get so upset in the same circumstances. Certainly not to the point of never wanting to speak to the person again. What do you think?

I am just so disappointed that I ruined what started out as a nice evening. If only I could just keep my mouth shut. And now there's not even anything that I can do to repair things because he has shut me out completely (possibly permanently), which is causing me a lot of anguish :(
[QUOTE=SophiaM]Thanks Dear Aunt GE. I think I will just have to feel down for a couple of days over this. I hate it because I don't like to hold a grudge, and am generally eager to resolve any conflict soon, but my ex is very "sensitive" and he holds a grudge for a long time over minor things.

Oh, it was something very stupid, really. Basically he was elevating himself in so many words saying what a great guy he was and how my previous roommate was jealous of me because I was dating a guy like him. He always says the same things and that, together with other comments how if I "hadn't screwed things up with him in the past, I would now have a wonderful life and travel the world with him," made me extremely irritated, so I said something like "Oh phuuleease, don't flatter yourself so much." I guess it's more the way I said it than what I said. But I couldn't help it--his comments just annoyed me so much because he tries to make me feel like I'm the only one that screwed our relationship up and I now have to suffer as a consequence. So, basically the evening just went downhill from there. I called him the next morning and apologized for what I said, but it seems that he's already in his pouting mode and might remain in it for the next...I don't know...a year??? He wouldn't pick up the phone when I tried to call and then hung up on me. Is it just me, or was it a relatively minor thing?? I don't think I would get so upset in the same circumstances. Certainly not to the point of never wanting to speak to the person again. What do you think?

I am just so disappointed that I ruined what started out as a nice evening. If only I could just keep my mouth shut.[/QUOTE]

I think he's trying to make you feel guilty for the break-up of the relationship. Evidently, he doesn't want to take any responsibility at all. You didn't say anything so bad that he can't forgive you. For Heaven's Sake! That's ridiculous. Geminis do tend to hold grudges and hold on to resentment. I know after I broke up with my Gemini, he NEVER forgave me and actually hated me after that. He was so angry and nasty when I went to see him a year later after we broke up.

Your ex-ex wouldn't show so much emotion unless he had feelings for you. Usually, the more emotion they show, the more feelings they have for you. That's what I've heard. I'm not talking about being abusive or anything like that. But the fact that he got that angry shows he still has some feelings for you. Well, you tried to apologize and he wouldn't accept it, so there's nothing else you can do.

It sounds like he is still interested in you and really did not want the relationship to end. But, it's never just one person's fault. I'm sure he will probably try to get in touch with you again. Don't worry about it. ;)





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