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[QUOTE=Ruth6:11]Okay, maybe I'm way off base here, but what's wrong with going out for a drink and NOT mentioning the "let's just be friends" deal??
We (as in females) are so quick to start putting boundries up that we can end up keeping out the wrong cowboy. Or "company ink"....
OK, I'm from the midwest and hadn't heard the "nib" deal but I'm still giggling over it too!!! :D
Ruth
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Exactly, Nini, what's wrong with going out with him for a drink as just coworkers, no pressure and getting to know him a little? You said he was someone new in the company, or at least new to you. Do you think he's a nice and interesting enough guy to get to know as a friend for now? Like I said before, sometimes the attraction part doesn't kick in immediately, but even if he turned out to be just a good friend, we can always use good friends!!! Besides, there are a lot of couples who met through work, it's nothing unusual, and it would certainly not stop me if I liked someone.
[QUOTE=SophiaM]Exactly, Nini, what's wrong with going out with him for a drink as just coworkers, no pressure and getting to know him a little? You said he was someone new in the company, or at least new to you. Do you think he's a nice and interesting enough guy to get to know as a friend for now? Like I said before, sometimes the attraction part doesn't kick in immediately, but even if he turned out to be just a good friend, we can always use good friends!!! Besides, there are a lot of couples who met through work, it's nothing unusual, and it would certainly not stop me if I liked someone.[/QUOTE]

Well, I went for the drink, and although I don't think he's "boyfriend" material, it was pleasant just to sit and talk with someone. When I got home the FFWB had left a message wanting me to babysit his son for him tomorrow morning. I know he's busy and all, but it just gets to me that he only calls me when he wants something. I can't say I blame him, though. I guess I can be a drag since every time we get together he ends up badgering me about going to his church and I end up explaining why I just don't want to and that leads to an emotional discussion about the "ex." I guess we're both a little sick of it.

Anyway, the co-worker:smokes, drinks what I would call heavily on occassion, chews tobacco, and does pot once in a while. NOT the qualities I'm looking for. He was nice enough but don't think it would be a good idea to be alone with him again. He asked if I'd like to go to a movie and said "maybe it could be like a date" and twitched his eyebrows up and down, and said I was adorable and "hot" and he couldn't understand why I'm not seeing anyone. Which I find very bizarre since I usually just wear jeans or pants, a tee shirt with my hair back and no make up at work. I didn't even wash my hair today!! (I'm not a slob, trust me! It's very long and the climate is very dry so it doesn't always get oily and dirty enough to wash every day, but still) He must be a chest man. Usually men who pay me attention are chest men since I'm fairly well endowed in that area. But it doesn't really sound like he would easily be content with "just friends."

Anyway, another guy I work with, married and very nice, asked me if there was anything new on the boyfriend front. I just said "oh, stop!" And he said he was going to find me a nice guy because "you're too sweet to pass up!!"

I guess all this has me wondering how I could have messed up so badly with my ex that toward the end he couldn't even stand to be around me and all he wanted was for me to just go away. I wish it still didn't hurt so bad. But I keep muddling on, and see what tomorrow will bring. Thanks for all the feedback, guys! I'm off now to see MY MOVIE, the 40 Year Old Virgin. I can't believe they made a movie about me!! ;) :D :D Actually, I dont' know whether to laugh or cry at the whole " ahem, old maid" situation, but we'll see.





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