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My mums lost it!
Sep 5, 2005
Let me give you some brief background info before I explain the situation. I'm 17 years old and from a family of 5 kids, younger triplet brothers who are 13 and an older sister whose 19. When I was 3 we moved abroad to Saudi Arabia due to my dads job. I enjoyed Saudi, we all did, alot of good memories. We returned back home to England 3 years ago when the situation in Saudi got dangerous for expats. I've always felt I'm from the perfect family, in that we all love one another and are closer than most families, and outsiders have often commented on our closeness.

We went on holiday to Spain 2 weeks ago. Obviously with a family of 7 there's alot of us about and we're always bickering, as all families do - with three 13 year old lads it's what you come to expect. I was out one night with my dad and he seemed deep in thought and depressed. Anyway after a few drinks it all came it. He began telling me mum and him were having problems (this meant little to me as they're always arguing and I never doubted they wouldn't get over it), but it eventually turned out my mum had been having an affair for 5 months. MY mum. I couldn't believe this and still can't. My dad was/is distraught. Anyway I had to carry on the holiday pretending all I knew was my parents were having problems, and didn't have a clue about an affair. I made them both promise me they would give it there all to sort this out, there's just too much to loose. It would break my heart, my brothers, my sister, my nana, my auntie, they had to understand what they'd be throwing away, plus 25 years of a marriage.

Anyway now were back from the holiday. They've been arguing alot, this is killing dad. They've been to see a marriage councellor, but my mum, I don't know what's going on. She has no emotions. Me and my sister overheard it all, the affair, the fact she still loves this other man and although loves my dad, is no longer 'in love' with him. This was the first my sister had heard of it and she was in bits. She didn't sleep last night and I was up most the night with her. I feel I don't know my mum anymore. I haven't spoke to her since overhearing her actually discuss this other man, it's one thing being told your mum has been sleeping with another man, but hearing her talk about it and how she loves him, its outrageous. She doesn't know what she's risking. We have a really nice house, a lovely family with a great future, why would she do this? I've not yet been upset about it I'm just angry. She used to say she'd been kept late at work, while in truth she'd been off banging this man. She'd then come home and be a mum, how can she do this? I'm beginning to question how much she loves us children. I understand she may have fallen out of love with my dad but to be off sleeping with another man (who also has a wife and child), it's evil. My dad wants to kill this guy and I don't blame him. I just feel like my mum is in this daze and will one day wake up and realise what she's done, but I'm afraid it will be too late because right now she is obsessed with this other man. The other man wants to leave the relationship and sort it out with his wife and I think my mum is living in some fantasy world. She tells my dad how this guy excites her. She's a 44 year old mother, who does she think she is? I just want to know why she would do it. I can't stand to be in the room with her and myself, my sister and my dad would just like her to leave, but we love her too much to let her go that easily. Right now I feel I hate her, and she's nothing but scum in my eyes but I worry if we all push her and are so cold towards her, then she goes for this other guy and he's not there for her, what will she do then. At the end of the day she's my mum. Aren't mums meant to be the ones to protect you from getting hurt, yet she's the one breaking my heart.

Anyway that's my story and I don't really expect anyone to get to the end of it, but I felt I had to tell someone.


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