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It's been 3 days since I had last conctact with my ex-boyfriend. I am glad that I found the strength to tell him that I need to loose our contact. I am sad and it's hard but at least I am not up and down emotionally worrying what he thinks and whether I'll hear from him and whether he is with someone else and so on. At least this way I showed him that I need to respect my own feelings and hopefully walked away with dignity.

A very good friend of mine emailed me today a summery written by Oprah about Men. I forwarded to some of my girlfriends and they were all saying "this is so true". You all have been so helpful and supportive so I would like to share this email with you. It would be intersting to hear what you think about it, both men and women.


1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.

2. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

3. Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour.

4. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

5. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.

6. Slower is better.

7. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

8. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle.

9. If you feel like he is stringing you along, the he probably is.

10. Don't stay because you think "it will get better". You will be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

11. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

12. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?

13. Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

14. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.

15. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

16. You cannot change a man's behaviour. Change comes from within.

17. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are.. even if he has more education or in a better job.

18. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

19. Never let a man define who you are.

20. Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.

21. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

22. All mean are NOT dogs.

23. You should not be the one doing all the bending.... compromise is two way street.

24. You need time to heal between relationships. There is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

25. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you.. a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals... look for someone complimentary.. not supplementary.

26. Dating is fun.. even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.

27. Make him miss you sometimes. When a man always knows where you are and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.

28. Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man.

29. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Share this with other women and men (just so they know).. you'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.

Scared of being alone is what makes a lot of people stay in relationships that are abusive and hurtful: Dr. Phill.

You should know that you're the best thing that could ever happen to anyone and if a man mistreats you, he'll miss out on a good thing. If he was attracted to you in the 1st place, just know that he's not the only one. they're all watching you and you have a lot of choices. Make the right one. Ladies take care of your hearts....

So I received this email from a very good friend of mine and I must say there are many valid points. But I am not sure if there is really a man out there who would be so perfect? I am a little sceptical.

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