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You need to get an attorney and set up every OTHER weekend, so you too can have some time to be YOU.

I, too feel the need to go out now after my breakup, but would never shun my kids. I do it on the weekends I do not have them. This way you can plan for your weekends accordingly, and your wife can no longer pull this crap. It's not fair to you.

My situation is different from yours--my husband had the affair and left. He has cancelled or come late adn dropped off early almost without exception. Finally, thru an attorney--this no longer happens and I have time to be a mommy and time to myself ever other weekend for a great time with friends.

The going out and getting ME back has been invaluable to my happiness--and you need this too. Your wife sounds like a female version of my STBX as far as the "mid life crisis" attitude. They act completly out of character adn want to recapture their youth. SHe also sounds as if she is addicted to attention and getting affirmation outside of herself. With this type of person--you will always be better off w/out them. It just takes time to see this. Hang in.
[QUOTE=laurie864bla]You need to get an attorney and set up every OTHER weekend, so you too can have some time to be YOU.

I, too feel the need to go out now after my breakup, but would never shun my kids. I do it on the weekends I do not have them. This way you can plan for your weekends accordingly, and your wife can no longer pull this crap. It's not fair to you.

My situation is different from yours--my husband had the affair and left. He has cancelled or come late adn dropped off early almost without exception. Finally, thru an attorney--this no longer happens and I have time to be a mommy and time to myself ever other weekend for a great time with friends.

The going out and getting ME back has been invaluable to my happiness--and you need this too. Your wife sounds like a female version of my STBX as far as the "mid life crisis" attitude. They act completly out of character adn want to recapture their youth. SHe also sounds as if she is addicted to attention and getting affirmation outside of herself. With this type of person--you will always be better off w/out them. It just takes time to see this. Hang in.[/QUOTE]

Wow so right, but what the hell happend to the Mom and wife I knew? Now she is much better then she was 4 months ago. She cant even talk about those times, she admits she lost her mind. I dont mind her going out, thats fine but every damn weekend? Im a homebody, not interested in going out at all really. Not yet that is.

I just hope to god she goes thru this and comes out somewhere in the end a normal person. I so love her and im letting her go thru this without giving up on us. I maybe stupid, but for 19 years she was a rock and I mean a ROCK, did everthing for me so I can give her 6 month, or a year of nuttyness.





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