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:wave: Ive been with my boyfriend for ..almost 3 years. The problem is he doesnt like it when i wear short skirts. ..i never dress slutty and wear things that are too short, or too exposing but i do love mini skirts (even them, i wear nicely with the right kind of top). This whole thing started when i first wore one when i went out with my boyfriend.. and had a lot of guys look at me. A lot of them were older..some even had girlfriends.

My boyfriend tells me that if we were to go out and some guy tried to hit on me, or said something sleazy to me while i was with my boyfriend..my boyfriend would be tempted to kick his ***..and probably would get into a fight with him..he says its a respect thing..and that when guys hit on an obviously taken girl, its offensive to both the guy and his girlfriend.

He says he gets very angry when he sees men look at me intensly..he claims that its ok if they just look and then look away but when they "check me out" he gets very upset.

I dont notice men intensly checking me out, ive only noticed it a few times. It bothers me because im not a very confident person..and i know my boyfriend likes me in a skirt alot..he gets really turned on ;) so wearing one around him makes me feel good about myself..ive explained this to him as well.

He says that he considers me a serious girlfriend and i if i want to be considered a serious girlfriend i shouldnt wear skirts! lol.
How stupid is this?
He also claims its a social thing as well and "modest girls" dont wear short skirts.
None of my skirts are grossly short, to the point where i cant even bend a lil without my *** poping up..but geez..

what are peoples thoughts on this?
He has said some other manipulative things before in relation to the issue..like "when i see other guys perve on you like that, im tempted to go perve on their girlfriends or on other girls"

Obviously no girlfriend is gonna be happy about such statements.



By the way, he isnt a Muslim either lol..

im starting to get my own answer here, he is jealous- period.
Oh yeah, for sure. Im not gonna not wear skirts and be hot in summer. I dont like shorts (Summer is coming where im at ), it is rare that i will find shorts that i like.
Im also only 20 years old..if i was married with kids, i probably would reconsider things.
Id say he is both, old fashioned and insecure. I was just wondering if most men think this way .. as in "its hot..but i dont want my girlfriend wearing it"

Mind you, he absolutely loves it when i wear them in private. Every time he comes by he asks "can you wear that skirt i like" lol.

Ive already told him "im wearing them because i feel good about myself in them and because i know you like them and thats that." and he said "OK FINE * pout pout*
my boyfriend likes how i look in a skirt. he says he's proud that i am his girlfriend and likes others to see what he 'has' so to speak. He actually incourages me to wear them telling me it looks hot haha.

yeah i think girls and guys view things like this differently. Because there have been times where i'm out without my boyfriend and if he hears that some guy was checking me out or asked if he could buy me a shot he becomes upset and thinks he needs to straighten the guy up. I dont know why men become so threatened maybe a lot of them have an insecurity issues early on.

Just let him know if you want to wear one you plan on it, if he has a problem to not be around you when you intend on wearing it. goodluck!
[QUOTE=Cokiemonsta]:wave: Ive been with my boyfriend for ..almost 3 years. The problem is he doesnt like it when i wear short skirts. ..i never dress slutty and wear things that are too short, or too exposing but i do love mini skirts (even them, i wear nicely with the right kind of top). This whole thing started when i first wore one when i went out with my boyfriend.. and had a lot of guys look at me. A lot of them were older..some even had girlfriends.

My boyfriend tells me that if we were to go out and some guy tried to hit on me, or said something sleazy to me while i was with my boyfriend..my boyfriend would be tempted to kick his ***..and probably would get into a fight with him..he says its a respect thing..and that when guys hit on an obviously taken girl, its offensive to both the guy and his girlfriend.

He says he gets very angry when he sees men look at me intensly..he claims that its ok if they just look and then look away but when they "check me out" he gets very upset.

I dont notice men intensly checking me out, ive only noticed it a few times. It bothers me because im not a very confident person..and i know my boyfriend likes me in a skirt alot..he gets really turned on ;) so wearing one around him makes me feel good about myself..ive explained this to him as well.

He says that he considers me a serious girlfriend and i if i want to be considered a serious girlfriend i shouldnt wear skirts! lol.
How stupid is this?
He also claims its a social thing as well and "modest girls" dont wear short skirts.
None of my skirts are grossly short, to the point where i cant even bend a lil without my *** poping up..but geez..

what are peoples thoughts on this?[/QUOTE]
Hi,
Your guy sounds a little immature. Sounds like he has some control issues, anger issues and trust issues. You need to decide, right now, what you'll put up with and what you won't. Today it's a short skirt, tommorrow it will be a blouse, next day shoes. Every time you alter who you are for him, you loose a little bit of yourself. Pretty soon, you won't know who you are and neither will he. When you loose yourself, you loose his interest, so if you want to keep him, keep him on his toes and stand up for yourself and your own values.
i for one would love guys to be perving on my girlfriend... i mean really, it's the ultimate compliment... if the girl i'm with is desirable to other men, should i get violent, or just bask in the glory of a stunning girl that other guys are drooling over... no question, i say flaunt it... because i'm secure enough to know that she's coming home to me, i don't care how many guys are interested. she cares for me i care for her. thats a connection that a few compliments and stares won't break down. i know it's a bad example because women are not possessions, but ask your boyfriend if he'd "beat the [email protected]" out of a guy because he complimented your boyfriends taste in cars (by looking at his car, or by saying "nice car mate" or whatever) or anything else... bet he'd be pleased. so why is it different with a girl that has made the concious decision to be with HIM.

he sounds healous and insecure... is there any reason he could reasonably be nervous about you leaving him for another guy (have you mentioned anything about old flames etc). otherwise he has issues and should be dropped like a sack of ....
[QUOTE=Daphnee]Who are you to call her a skank?? I think that is rude and inappropriate for YOU or anyone else to judge someone by how they choose to dress!!

I dress sexy and NOT trampy style either, and I have many men who stare at me and enjoy every minute of it. So, what if his ex didn't wear anything under her skirts, I personally wouldn't do it, and my skirts are never more than a few inches above the knee.

But thats her business, so really I still see nothing wrong with sexy attire as long as its covering the parts that should be covered.

Lets face it theres sexy dressing, and then theres trampy style. Personally, if my b/f or husband tried to tell me how to dress, he would be hearing some words from me.[/QUOTE]


I called his x a skank because he said that she'd wear incredibily short skirts and spread her legs infront of his friends (and she wouldnt wear underwear)..and to me thats skanky.
It sounded like he was comparing the two of us, and i wanted to clear up that im nothing like that.

I have great legs and a nice ***, it would be a pitty for me to cover them up for the rest of my life just because todays male population is 99.9% "desperados".. Why should i suffer in pants or ugly shorts when its 34degrees outside?
And why shouldnt i wear mini skirts if they look good on me and if i know how to pick out the types of skirts that arent "trampy"?
I was curious as to what males would say on such a topic because i wanted to know if it was common for men to have "issues" with others looking at their girlfriend.

i think after last night, my boyfriend is gonna be fine with me wearing skirts





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