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Hey everyone,

I don't even know why I'm posting this on here, but I am just so upset that I don't know what else to do with myself. Less than 2 months ago, I met a guy and we got along really really well. It felt as though we'd known each other for ages, after only one day. He asked me out and I said yes and after that it was just absolutely amazing! I kept thinking to myself that we must have the greatest relationship ever and he's the most perfect guy in the entire world, and he used to tell me that he's the luckiest guy in the world to have me. I can go on about how amazing things were, for hours...the point is that I had no idea that his feelings would change so suddenly. He was SUCH a great boyfriend and he also made me believe that he likes me a lot. We would just be sitting there, and he'd tell me how happy he is that I'm there and that he likes me so so much. Anyway, the last time I saw him was 2 weekends ago, when everything was still perfect. I saw him that weekend and we agreed to meet up the following sat/sun, because he was busy that week. He didn't call on monday, he didn't call on tuesday (and we normally talk everyday) and on wednesday we were both online, on ***, and he didn't even say hi. When I said hi, he wasn't as talkative as usual. On thursday he didnt call and on friday he called in the evening (I was just about to call him myself and ask what's wrong) and didnt even ask how I was or anything...he just asked if we could meet up the following day. I don't even know how to explain this, but it was just the way he said it. It didn't even feel like he wanted to see me that much! We used to talk everyday and if we didnt, it felt like we hadn't spoken to each other in ages, and this time we hadn't spoken for almost a week and he didn't really seem to want to talk...he just wanted to meet up tomorrow and that's it. Anyway, we agreed to meet up and said goodbye. I then called him to ask him something and also asked if he wants to meet up with break up with me. There was silence, so i figured it was. He just said that it's wrong to discuss this on the phone, which is why we should meet and talk in person. Anyway, I kept asking (because I knew he was going to break up with me anyway) and in the end he said that his feelings for me have changed...he looks at me and sees a friend and not a girlfriend. I cannot even tell you how I was feeling at that point...it just felt like it was the end of the world for me. Anyway, there was no real explanation, just the fact that he thinks of me as a good friend now. What I don't understand is why he said he LOOKS and me and sees a friend. Perhaps if he'd said he thinks of me and thinks of me as a friend, it would've made a bit more sense to me. The last time I saw him, I was the 'perfect gf' and he was kissing me. It's not even like I was the one who initiated it all. We were just watching a film in his room and he started kissing me and stuff. So now he [B]suddenly[/B] thinks of me as a friend?!
Anyway, I realise that there's not much point in going on and on about this. I just have some questions, but you guys may be able to help me out with.

1) Is it possible to like someone so much and then just suddenly think of them as a friend?! I was talking to him yesterday for quite a while (he initiated it, not me) and he said he's going crazy, because he misses me, but in typical guy fashion is pretending he doesnt, by filling up his day with things so that he doesnt have to think. What is that supposed to mean? Also, we're planning on meeting up soon (either way, we have to). I am just so worried about what it'll be like...I probably won't be able to look at him without bursting into tears, because I can't think about him or talk to him without crying. Do you think he'll ever want to get back together again? I don't know how I'm supposed to act around him now...i can't just pretend that nothing happened and we're just friends. He said he wants to be friends with me, and I definitely don't want to lose him (i feel he's still such a great guy and we have a great connection), but it just hurts so much? :confused:

2) I have exams coming up very soon (in less than a week) and all that I can think about is him. I can't concentrate on my work anymore and at night I dont sleep because I just think about him all the time and/or cry. I go through all the good times in my head (there were no bad times!) and then I think about what meeting up will be like this time. This is really killing me! I can't believe we've known each other for less than 2 months, because it feels like I've been with him forever! :eek: Anyway, does anyone have any tips? I know I need to study, but just can't!!!

Thanks for reading this, and I'm so sorry it's so long! :-(





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