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I know my boyfriend could not go and WILL not go. He is just always busy but yes - I did ask him and he just said "You know I cant go".

Like I said earlier, I have met this guy at the coffee shop a few times. We usually chat and just have a good talk. He knows that I have a boyfriend and that my guy is always busy. So when he asked if I wanted to hangout with the gang - I replied with "I dont know" This is where he says "You can bring the boyfriend too"

When I rang my boyfriend to check if he was cool with me going - I told him that the coffee shop guy asked him to come too. My guy didnt really comment of whether he thought this guy was sincere about the invitation or not - again, he just said... You know I cant go.

Honestly, I know my guy doesnt want to be friends with this guy. There are just people you dont want to be friends with and since most of the guys that has approached me (while I was with my current boyfriend) have tried to get into my pants - he is not really ok with it.

Why did it go sour? I dont know myself - I asked him why he was angry. I mean I didnt sneak behind his back - in fact I told him about it and I wanted to see how he felt. He said something like "you know how i feel about it, do you think Id be cool with you going out on a date with this guy?" He basically got ticked because he interprets the whole thing as this dude asking me out for a date, and me WANTING to go HENCE I WANT TO GO ON A DATE with this guy.

LIke I said earlier, I swear - I didnt think of it as a date! someone posted earlier agree with me saying its a group of people going out for the night - I told my boyfriend that yes I do want to be friends with this guy. He seems to be pretty cool but then again I dont want to go if he will hit on me - it will just ruin the evening. I just dont want to bother with it...

I told my guy that im NOT interested in this man and I wouldnt do anything with him. There is a reason why Im with my boyfriend - I love him and Im still in love with him. He knows all this. I couldnt help bawling though because I felt like he was thinking I WAS GONNA DO STUFF with this guy. And I know I wont - Im not interested in him at all - well not in that way! I do find him extremely funny and thats the reason why I didnt mind being friends with him.

My boyfriend says he doesnt think Im going to do anything - (I was crying and I asked him if he really thought Id do something with that guy) he went all quiet and was like... NO I dont think you will do that...I personally thought that was a crock of sh**. I dont know I feel confused.

Is there a way of fixing this? Does this mean I either break up with and have male friends? Is there no way around it? How do I talk to him about it?

Since my guy thinks all men that try to approach me do want to be more than friends - I mean they were attracted to me and that why they come over right - so my guy thinks, they are clearly attracted to me and he worries that if I spend time with them lots - these guys will try something and it will escalate. - Is this insecurity or lack of trust? or is it both???

Im just having all these mixed emotions - apart of me feels so upset and confused. I feel like it he didnt even care that I was honest to him and I said that!!! Oh yeah Id like to make it clear that this coffee shop guy invited me tuesday and I told my bf thursday(which was the night the we wre all supposed to hang out) if I could go - my guy got ticked and said how come I didnt tell him earlier - like wednesday when we both hanged out.

I wasnt hiding it from him. I didnt even know if I was gonna go and it wasnt that of a big deal - but he was all like... annoyed. I told him whats the big deal that I told him 2 days later? I need some input on THIS one. What is the big deal that I didnt tell him immediately? Does it look like I was hiding it? I thought the important part was I told him about it - not the WHEN aspect.

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