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I apologize to the moderators if I'm violating any rules...I know I posted this topic in the Teen Health forum, but I think it may fit more appropriately in the Relationship Health forum.

But anyway, here's my story. Maybe you guys can help me out with my problem:

I've been dating a great guy named "Corey" for almost five months now, and I knew I loved him long before we ever began dating. He's everything I want in a guy, and there's not one thing I would change about him. I don't know how many of you believe in fate, but I do strongly believe that he and I were meant for each other. Trust me, I don't just say that about anyone either.

Now for the downsides: while he remains in our hometown, I am away at college, 500 miles away. I keep in touch with him through emails and instans messaging, and the occasional phone call; note, I don't have a cellphone, so I must make calls from school, which I don't get to do extremely often. I miss him terribly, and I have cried so much out of loneliness while I've been here. I try to think to myself that all the waiting will be worth it when I can be with the one I love, and sometimes it helps, but other times I just cry even more because I know my boyfriend is not nearby and I can't see him or hold him.

As far as my social life...well...I hardly have one. I've made only a couple of friends, and I only may go and see them once a week. The rest of my free time, I'm home on my computer or crying in my room out of loneliness. It's really hard, but I just am not a very social person.

Okay, I'll get to the REAL problem now...sorry for my babbling, you guys. Here's the deal: I have come to realize that I have developed a crush on my guy friend, "Bobby", who I have known for a bit over a month. The feelings are not intense - I don't pine for him or anything, but it's just a school-girl type crush. I'm not drawn to him for his looks or for anything he owns...I just like his personality a lot, and despite my rather quiet and boring nature, he still is nice to me and doesn't mind spending some time with me. He's done a few things to make me wonder if he cared for me, like holding me in his arms and practically nuzzling me when I was cold and telling me I have nice legs and telling me I'm attractive...okay he said "hott"...I don't know if the extra T means anything special :confused:

I don't like him for the things he's done...I just think he's a nice guy. I don't get all giddy around him or flirty, nor do I treat him extra nice or anything of the sort. But I don't want to feel this way about [i]anyone[/i] while I have a boyfriend, especially not one of my best friends I've made here so far. I fear that this crush will escalate just because of my loneliness, and I don't want it to.

I don't want to leave my boyfriend, but I also don't want to lose my friendship with Bobby. What are your thoughts on this, guys? Am I a bad girlfriend for feeling this way toward a friend? How can I forget my crush on Bobby before I do something I'll regret? I know I love my boyfriend with all my heart; the way I feel for him is unlike any feeling I've ever had for anyone else - I have no intentions of leaving him or cheating on him. What I have for Bobby is just a little infatuation.

I'd sincerely appreciate any help at all on this matter...I've asked so many people for advice on this matter because I'm so confused, but no one has offered me any help. Is the answer to my question so obvious that it's not worth responding to? Or are people just as confused as I am?


Dark Stranger - wishes her heart would not have its own mind :(

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