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[QUOTE=cremebrulee]someone needs to snap me out of this destructive cycle that i keep putting myself through. some people may remember my "help interpeting email from guy" post about gunnar. since i have been a little depressed about how things have been going, i contacted a guy that i was dating several months ago before i met wesley and gunnar. his name is simon. he appeared to be a real player. on our first date he picked me up in his porsche. how many 25 yr olds drive porsches? his short term goal was to be a millionaire by the age of 30. he isn't as hot as the other guy i was seeing at the time but there was just something about him. damn italian men. i can't resist them. they are so bad for me. things didn't work out for us because he kept flaking on me. tonight i was lonely so we started talking. the last time i talked to him he wanted to go out but i told him that i was washing my hair. i didn't want to see him. tonight he asked if he could come over and make me feel better by giving me a back massage. we end up fooling around. i didn't have sex with him. we've never had. i just didn't want to be lonely. i don't know how to deal with being alone. as i walked him outside, he said to call him tomorrow because he wants to take me on a drive to the mountains. i said i okay. gosh i feel like a stupid relationship loser. my friend anna is gonna kill me when she finds out that i am starting to see simon again. it didn't work the first time around. what makes me think it will work this time?[/QUOTE]

Creme, I can understand your loneliness. I'm feeling that way myself right now. I'm getting so weary of "searching" for a man. Then, when it seems I finally do find someone I get excited about, they don't want me.

Today, I feel especially down and I just can't seem to shake it. This one man who I am so attracted to sexually only wants me for sex. I told him I would do a FWB thing with him, simply because I enjoy the sex so much. We were supposed to meet last week, but he had to cancel and I haven't heard from him since. I want him so bad and I wish I didn't! It's horrible. I don't think I'm going to hear from him again now. But, I guess it's a good thing.

I think it's a good idea if you just stick with men who seem to be really interested in you. Don't be calling men and chasing after them. I think it's a waste of time. They will just keep taking and taking until there is nothing left for them to take from you. Some men are simply unable to give of themselves until they reach a certain age or until they find the right woman.

I don't know about this Simon guy. It seems if he really was that interested in you, he would have kept in contact with you. You said you didn't hear from him for three months and then you called him to say "hi". He's probably going to try and get into your pants and if he doesn't, he will move on. That's just my opinion. I think if a guy is really interested in a woman and not just sex, he stays in contact with her and asks her out on dates on a regular basis. Oh, by the way, I love Italian men also. They are absolutely gorgeous and usually very romantic.

Take care and hang in there. We all go through dry spells when dating, but things magically pick up again. You will see. Try to stick with the men who call you and ask you for dates, instead of going after the ones that seem to be ambivalent about you. :wave:

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