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[QUOTE=SophiaM]Well, not me. I don't fall in love easily. It's very hard for me to fall in love. Maybe that's why once I do, it seems like it's "for life." It's so rare for me that I take it too seriously and I can't let it go. To be honest, I don't like to start new relationships. I am usually more inclined to work on the old one because once I get attached to someone, I somehow can't get "disattached." That's probably my biggest problem. Even with this guy who I'm so crazy about--when I first met him, I didn't like him that much. It was his sheer persistance and being crazy about me that turned me on. In fact, the first two times we made love, I kind of forced myself to do it, but then got addicted to it! :D For me, I have to kind of get used to someone, even if I find them physically attractive, and if he seems to be really into me, keeps in regular contact and keeps asking me out--my feelings then start to grow. But so few men nowadays have the patience for it. I don't know how my life is going to turn out. I sometimes think I'm a contradiction in terms because I"m very liberal and at the same time somewhat conservative. I can get pretty wild, but it would only take a very special person to bring that out in me. Most men just bore me, to be honest.[/QUOTE]

Yes, I'm sorry you are struggling with this too, Sophia. It seems like a lot of men would be waiting in line for you simply BECAUSE you don't fall in love so easily. You are the challenge most men seek! So, it's not necessarily a bad quality.

I"m probably not enough of a challenge and open up too soon. There's probably a happy medium somewhere in between.

It seems like, lately, I've been finding more men I'm attracted to. I think the reason this keeps happening is because I'm not necessarily looking to meet someone for the long haul. At my age, it's just not that important anymore. What's really important to me right now is enjoying each day as much as I possibly can and each person that passes into my life as much as I can. I don't really worry about getting married because it doesn't really matter to me if I do or not.

Really, it's not how long a relationship lasts, but the quality of the relationship that counts most to me. So, guess when I'm dating someone, I don't worry about whether or not it's going to last and just enjoy the present. It is hard to do, especially if you want marriage and children.

But, you could try to pretend that you don't want to get married when you go out and just enjoy the moment.

Somehow, you have got to get past this ex-boyfriend of yours. Something is definitely unresolved here between you two. I think it's funny you haven't heard from him yet. But don't let it get you down if you don't hear from him. He might be waiting to return the email to get a rise out of you!

You are just going through a dry spell right now. I really think you should have left your ad online though.

Take care. ;)

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