It appears you have not yet Signed Up with our community. To Sign Up for free, please click here....



Relationship Health Message Board


Relationship Health Board Index


i feel like i read the same questions over and over here- how do i get over someone, and how do i meet someone? yet nobody likes the answer. sophia, you say that you're in a female-oriented program at school? get to know each and every one of those women. they have male friends, and brothers, and cousins, and husbands and boyfriends who have male friends and brothers and cousins. you have to take a more circuitous route. no guy is just going to sit down next to you in a class one day and magically be single, good-looking, intelligent, no baggage, and interested. life is not a julia roberts movie. and as far as getting over someone? the best way to get over someone is to meet enough people that you let go of the myth that the ex-boyfriend was the only one you'll ever connect with. the more people you meet that you find interesting, the more you realize how giant this world is and that while you may have loved your ex, there are so many other great people waiting to amaze you.
[QUOTE=opielonghorn]i feel like i read the same questions over and over here- how do i get over someone, and how do i meet someone? yet nobody likes the answer. sophia, you say that you're in a female-oriented program at school? get to know each and every one of those women. they have male friends, and brothers, and cousins, and husbands and boyfriends who have male friends and brothers and cousins. you have to take a more circuitous route. no guy is just going to sit down next to you in a class one day and magically be single, good-looking, intelligent, no baggage, and interested. life is not a julia roberts movie. and as far as getting over someone? the best way to get over someone is to meet enough people that you let go of the myth that the ex-boyfriend was the only one you'll ever connect with. the more people you meet that you find interesting, the more you realize how giant this world is and that while you may have loved your ex, there are so many other great people waiting to amaze you.[/QUOTE]


I know, Opie, what you're saying is true. I know that on an intellectual level, but sometimes it's hard to stay optimistic. Especially in the winter, I tend to get the blues more often. Would you believe that most of my friends are the only children? It's a very strange coincidence, but I always tend to attract people who are the only children. Even my very first friend whom I met when I was six years old and we are still in touch with each other, is the only child. I do know a few others who have siblings, but so far it hasn't lead to me meeting anyone via that route. I made friends with a couple of girls in grad school, though I should probably try to get closer to more of them. Making close friends at my age in not as easy. Most people already have their own circle. And I can be shy sometimes too around new people. But yes, you are right that there must be other people who can be just as good or better for me than my ex. I just get too emotionally attached, I think. It could be good and bad. For example, if someone becomes my friend, it's pretty much forever. I don't have that many friends but I'm usually very loyal to the ones I have. I'm the same way with relationships, which is where it becomes a problem because in our society, relationships are so disposable. I take them very seriously and that's why I get so hurt.





All times are GMT -7. The time now is 05:32 PM.





© 2020 MH Sub I, LLC dba Internet Brands. All rights reserved.
Do not copy or redistribute in any form!