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Hi, I just want to start out by saying that I feel for you. It sounds to me like he is just unhappy. Perhaps the fact of having five kids, working and such, is just getting to him. Perhaps he feels like he never has any time to himself. I wouldn't take it too personally, although I know it is hard not to. Maybe he just feels stuck in a rut.

I don't know why he would sleep on the couch 3 or 4 times a week. It sounds odd to me. My husband does not sleep on the couch and if we are having a bad fight, I sleep on the couch to get away from him. Just a question...does your husband watch pornos? My friend's boyfriend started separating himself from her at bedtime because he was watching what he shouldn't be in the living room. Now granted, alot of women don't care about that sort of thing, but for us jealous broads, it's a no no. I just wondered since you mentioned that you didn't lose the weight from the last baby and he isn't into sleeping in the same bed anymore. Not that I am suggesting that he is that type of guy because my husband is very respectful and doesn't watch that stuff. But I was just curious to if it was a posibility. If not, then maybe he is tired and falls asleep. Maybe you could put a tv in the bedroom, where he can lay in bed and watch. You might have to put up with the noise but at least he would be in bed.

As for the getting things constantly for him. My husband does it too. It irritates me so bad! I will be up getting myself something and he will ask me to get him something too. I don't mind if I have an extra hand free and I am already up, but I only have two hands. It really bothers me when I am sitting down beside him and he asks me to get up and get him something. I have began putting my foot down and telling him no. I tell him that he is just as capable of getting off his lazy butt and doing it himself as I am.

As for chores, I can't complain. My husband and I seem to split things down the center. Although I stay at home due to recent health issues and he works, I do what needs to be done during the day. We don't have kids but we have lots of animals and I tend to them (can be extremely stressful at times - right now I have a cat suffering from constant constipation, another one with a draining abscess, and my house cat got in a fight with the constipated one and has been running a high fever for nearly 4 days. Not to mention my dog has a boil on his back, which I am tending to. We have spent over $1,000 in vet bills since November). So I have my hands full. When Mark gets home, he helps me as much as possible, with washing dishes when I cook, va****** the floor while I pick everyhting up, etc. Household chores are a joint job, since I am not the only one living there.

I hope things get better for you. Good luck.

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