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[QUOTE=Hiya] I think if this were really completely and totally true right down the line, then no one would ever have sex, fall in love, get married or have kids, because no one would feel the desire or need to, because everyone would already be completely content and full and happy and satisfied with what they already had in life and we'd all be way too busy making ourselves happy to bother with sex or dating or marriage or love or kids. [/QUOTE]

So in other words, without those in your life you wouldn't be happy?

Happiness is a state of mind. As I've discovered in my journey in my young life, I am happy when I'm single, I was happy for a short time when I was married, I am happy now with my fiance, I am happy [U]no matter [/U] if I have a man in my life or not. None of my boyfriends or my ex-husband dictated or dictates my own happiness, only I controlled my own feelings.

That's what I'm trying to get across without sounding "harsh"..... the poster's happiness is external and [B]not from within[/B]. Discovering what makes [B]you[/B] happy is the key here. And that's too much of a burden for the other person to carry and hence, breaks the bind that holds any relationship. I could recommend some things on here about discovering yourself, but I don't want to break any rules.

I don't burden or put the responsibility on any human being including men in my life, my friends and even my child to make me happy.

If you or anybody else make other people responsible for your own happiness, then I say you may want to look things over again in your life.

I'm sorry for being harsh, but I'm just being honest and candid and giving my life experience as advice.
[QUOTE=Hiya] I think if this were really completely and totally true right down the line, then no one would ever have sex, fall in love, get married or have kids, because no one would feel the desire or need to, because everyone would already be completely content and full and happy and satisfied with what they already had in life and we'd all be way too busy making ourselves happy to bother with sex or dating or marriage or love or kids. [/QUOTE]

So in other words, without those in your life you wouldn't be happy?

Happiness is a state of mind. As I've discovered in my journey in my young life, I am happy when I'm single, I was happy for a short time when I was married, I am happy now with my fiance, I am happy [U]no matter [/U] if I have a man in my life or not. None of my boyfriends or my ex-husband dictated or dictates my own happiness, only I controlled my own feelings.

That's what I'm trying to get across without sounding "harsh"..... the poster's happiness is external and [B]not from within[/B]. Discovering what makes [B]you[/B] happy is the key here.

I don't burden or put the responsibility on any human being including men in my life, my friends, my family and even my child to make me happy. That's too much of a burden and responsibility for another human being to carry. I think children are the only ones that counts on another human being's happines. And as parents, that's where we come in and "teach" our children to count on themselves to make them happy and don't count on anbody else.

If you or anybody else make other people responsible for your own happiness, then I say you may want to look things over again in your life.

I'm sorry for being harsh, but I'm just being honest and candid and giving my life experience as advice.





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