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I don't think we are ever going to run out of people having babies. You don't have to be in a relationship to have a kid. I'm sure there will be plenty of errant high school kids and poor people who already have mulitple children popping out more kids on a regular basis for decades to come. I mean, look at the Maury show. Every single episode is devoted to four or five women searching for the father of their babies. That's almost a hundred babies a month, right there. We have nothing to worry about.

And aren't there already too many people in the world, anyway? If there were less people crowding up the developed, rich countries like America, then some of those folks living in mud huts in third world countries could come over and share the wealth. As it is, not even all of the people already IN America have homes. Too many fu**ers roaming around as it is.

I don't blame people for wanting to be single. Being single rules. I, personally, am not single but I like to pretend I am. I could spend all day long entertaining myself. But you just know that a lot of those people in the survey may SAY they want to remain single, but you know how easily we all fall into lust. Relationships may be on the decline, because they suck, but it won't stop people from getting pregnant.

The world just seems to be changing. It used to be expected that you got married and popped out the children. But a lot of people are seeing just how well THAT worked out for their parents. Women don't want to be stuck in the kitchen with screaming toddlers while their husbands are out painting the town with their mistresses. Traditionally, when you got married and pregnant you depended on your husband for a lot, to fully provide for you and hope that you didn't get fu**** over. Now, a lot of women are saying "Screw that."

See, it is men's fault. Men ruined the social order. Now, if you think that sounds sexist, prepare yourself. Now I think that logically, women are supposed to stay home and raise kids while men go out and provide for the family. But men screwed that up by cheating and being completely unreliable in general. So now women know they can't be trusted. Even the ones that CAN be trusted, can't be trusted, because you just never know. So now women have no choice but to go out and support themselves and their young. Women have been forced to TAKE OVER the men's job. Now they have to raise the kids AND provide for them. Men - they dropped the ball. Another way it was screwed up was by the longstanding belief that women are weaker, dumber, not as deserving as respect. All that "A woman's place is in the kitchen" crap. Well, maybe it is. But since it was always so degraded, so mocked, who wants that?

Well, that's my theory anyway, but I fine-tune it daily. Feel free to argue or discuss.

Despite his flaws, my boyfriend is probably in the top 90% percentile of boyfriends, letting me get away with almost anything, just for the priviledge of experiencing my vast wit and charm. ;) And still though, it is hard for me to have to compromise on things. I want to have my favorite radio station on in the car, I want to watch my favorite shows on TV, I want to go where I want on vacations. Sometimes it is just easier not to have to deal with someone else, and do whatever YOU want, whenever you want.
[QUOTE]Right....you should try to be in my shoes for a day and you'll know the true meaning of being a loner. Trust me on that one. it's obvious from your statement, the one on you liking to spend time alone that you had plenty of somewhat of a social life your entirely life.[/QUOTE]

No, no social life. At my request, my parents let me leave school at 10 so I could be homeschooled, which I continued on up until graduation. Upon finding out, people would always gasp "But, you don't get to socialize with anyone!" I'd stare back at them and say, "Well yeah. That's the point." Why is it impossible to believe that I'm a loner? How does that effect you?

[QUOTE]You had bfs for most of your life didn't you?[/QUOTE]

What does having a boyfriend have to do with being a loner? I don't drive yet, so I have always needed someone to drive me around. That's where a boyfriend comes in.

Why do you assume that I was spoiled, and how does that matter? Actually, it is hard to be spolied when neither of your parents has a job, because your dad is so morbidly obsese he can't walk and your mom is a chronic depressive who goes in and out of mental hospitals. So I looked to be spoiled in any small way I could...is that okay with you?

[QUOTE]As for your past, no matter how bad it may had been, none of these ex-bfs you used to have deserved to be cheated on unless they were ba****ds,[/QUOTE]

Going back and really thinking over it...I have only ever had two actual boyfriends in my life. The rest were more like flings. And with my first boyfriend we were split up when I slept with other people and with my current boyfriend it was HIS idea for me to sleep with his friend...so technically....I've never cheated. I was not an angel by any means, but I'm not so horrible as I may make myself out to be.

Mysterious Guy, it seems like you have been hurt a lot by girls and consider me the embodiment of every girl who done you wrong. I am sorry if you have experienced heartache, but most girls who act fancy-free and steamroll over people's emotions are probably hurting inside themselves.

[QUOTE] What about many (thousands) women lining up to be in porn industry, to participate in the film, its common theme being degraded, name calling, having two men's part going in at once (is that even normal?)? What about women lining up to be in stupid music videos which degraded women as well, be looked at as sexual objects? [/QUOTE]

Why so many women in porn? Well, the money. It is pretty clear in our world that a woman's greatest commodity is her looks, so a lot figure they will milk it for all it is worth. Men are the ones with the power in this world, and women know that the only power they have over men is sexual power. I mean, you have men who will pay thousands of dollars for an hour of sex. It is a viable market. In this day and age, women still do not have as many opprotunities as men do. But when it comes to the sex industry, they have the market cornered.

It is sad though, I agree. While women may have sexual power, they certainly aren't being respected for it. And having to focus so much on your body and attractiveness is rough on your soul. I hung my hat up after a short stint in the sex industry and concentrate instead on a career where my physical appearance does not come into play at all.

But this is all kind of off-topic, so I'll stop. I'm sorry my blanket statements about men piss you off MG but I like to spark discussion and arguement. It seems like you hate women, and blame them for your being alone and miserable. The thing is, you have to be happy on your own before you expect to find it with someone else :)
Whoa now where are you getting these things that you have said about me?? First of all I never had a girlfriend and sure as heck haven't been hurt by them before...well expect for a stuck up girl whom I used to have a crush on until I found out what a spoiled b**** she was and one more girl which i do not want to get into.

[QUOTE=GypsyArcher]." Why is it impossible to believe that I'm a loner? How does that effect you?"[/QUOTE]

It really doesn't affect me. Now that you explained your story better, I guess I believe it but it's different type of being loner I suppose. Again i would have to explain why in details but let not do that.

[QUOTE=GypsyArcher]." What does having a boyfriend have to do with being a loner? I don't drive yet, so I have always needed someone to drive me around. That's where a boyfriend comes in.[/QUOTE]

You used your old bf so they could just drive you around, how sad.

[QUOTE=GypsyArcher]." Why do you assume that I was spoiled, and how does that matter? Actually, it is hard to be spoiled when neither of your parents has a job, because your dad is so morbidly obsese he can't walk and your mom is a chronic depressive who goes in and out of mental hospitals. So I looked to be spoiled in any small way I could...is that okay with you?[/QUOTE]

I don't see why not, i thought you were from a rich family, just like you assumed I'm miserable and am in need of a girlfriend.

[QUOTE=GypsyArcher]." But I'm not so horrible as I may make myself out to be.[/QUOTE]

Again, now you have explained better, I guess not but to be honest, before that, you did (in my view at least) seems to be "horrible person", at least in the past. Now my view has changed. But using your ex-bf to drive you around? Tsk tsk :nono: :)

[QUOTE=GypsyArcher]." Mysterious Guy, it seems like you have been hurt a lot by girls and consider me the embodiment of every girl who done you wrong. I am sorry if you have experienced heartache, but most girls who act fancy-free and steamroll over people's emotions are probably hurting inside. [/QUOTE]

Again, I never had a girlfriend and I'm sure a lot of them are probably hurting inside as well. But am I? Well it is kind of hard to explain. Like I said, I would have to explain in greater details about myself.

[QUOTE=GypsyArcher]." But when it comes to the sex industry, they have the market cornered.
While women may have sexual power, they certainly aren't being respected for it. And having to focus so much on your body and attractiveness is rough on your soul.[/QUOTE]

Of course they are not going to be respected for what they do in porn industry; it is, pretty much, "un-moral", allowing themselves to be degraded like that way. They may do it for money but you know what, most or many of the women in porn industry are actually "smart", in a sense that many of them were good students in school and held well paid jobs. With that in mind, for them decide to join porn industry, which does nothing more than to degraded women and get paid to be degraded is what bother me the most. men, at least those who are not perverts, do not respect that at all.

[QUOTE=GypsyArcher]." It seems like you hate women, and blame them for your being alone and miserable. The thing is, you have to be happy on your own before you expect to find it with someone else :)[/QUOTE]

And last, I don't hate women. I wish I could have easier time being able to social with people, especially women. I, in fact love women and adore them, at least the ones who are cute and sweet. It isn't anyone's fault for what life I may have nor is it mine. As for my happiness, i do not know if I ever will find it (most people really don't anyway) but I am content with my life and with who I am, although it took a long and bumpy road to it (like I said again, i would have to explain a lot about myself and what is causing this "life" that I have) I am always outgoing and fun to be around, at least when the situation that I am allow me to be. Sadly, the only fun I really get to have is when I am at my job, the people and the situation there allow me be myself and be a cocky b*****d that I am. :D I don't look for a girlfriend thought it would be nice to have one if she were my type (fun, outgoing, etc). So i guess I am "happy" enough for a girlfriend. I don't ever go for a girl that is clearly not my type and I sure as hell don't overlook her flaws. Thanks for the talk; it had been an interesting one.





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