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I know this is pretty much reiterating what other posters have already said, but I want to try and drive the message home for you.

You're right, if your family and friends knew that a 30 year old man was messing with you, your family would put a stop to it pronto. That's because, unlike him, THEY actually care about you. At 16, you can't be expected to know human nature all that well, so I'm going to tell you something that your parents and friends already know. Any man that age who will fool around with a teenager is looking for two things. Sex and control. It's very easy to control and manipulate a teenager who doesn't have much life experience. He would be hard pressed to find a woman his own age that would tolerate it after the first incident.

Maybe after he starts using his fists on you ([B]and he will[/B]), you'll finally want to leave. By then, he'll have such control over you, and you will have such a low opionion of yourself, that you'll be too afraid of him to leave. You should be leave now, [I]before[/I] he begins to threaten your life or that of your family. He has the classic signs of an abusive and potentially dangerous man if he even [I]imagines[/I] in his sick mind that you've crossed him.

PLEASE tell your parents. Yes, they'll probably get angry, but they know the dangers of what you're doing better than you do. If necessary, at a minimum, they can get a restraining order against him. Men like that don't usually let go of control without a fight, and believe me honey, it's all about control, it's not cuz he loves you.
Yesterday night i didnt ryply to his txted and calls when he asked me to go and see him. I was home on my own bcause my mum was doing a night shift. Sone was knockin on the door me not knowing who it was answered it, and it was Will(my bf),
He pushed me out the way and barged in , luckly my mum wasnt in , and was shouting and swearing at me askin why i didnt txt back . I just said i was busy . He pushed me really hard so i fell to the floor. I told he i dont think we should see each other anymore, He grabbed ,me by my neck again and pinned me to the wall , he call me a sl** , i could hardly breethe . He said that the girl i caught him with wasnt the only one, he had been sleeping with loads more since we were together . I told him to get out but he wouldnt he pushed me down and was kickin me and he spat on me, saying that i will never get anyone better than him . He then pinned me down and forsed himself on me ,in my livingroom. i kept trying to get him of me but he was too strong for me i kept screaming at him no but he coverd my mouth , so i just had to wait for him to finish. He then started throwing everything round the room , he was throwing plates , chairs , pictures everything.he went about an hour later and said he would call me tommorow .
He has been txtin and callin non stop , he said he was really sorry and that i just made him angry. I palled a sickie becuase i cant face going into school. My mum thinks somthing is going on at school and she wants to come in. My life feels like hell at the moment and im breakin down and cant take it anymore.
Im on my own again tonight and if he calls round i think its just best to do what he says
Iv told my mum, she knew somthing was goin on but wasnt sure what. I thought she would be more angry at me than at him but she wasnt. She was really upset that i coulnt come to her and tell her , it turns out she was raped by her dad when she was younger so she knows what iv been through .
She didnt know who he was so we went straight to the police , they had to have every little detail of what happened. They were good they didnt push me to say it like i thought they would. They`ve been questioning him yesterday and today and he havent been out and i havent seen him since. He isnt aloud near me.
There was lots of tears that night, but at least it is finally out, it happened to my mum when she was younger and now me , lets just hope it doesnt happen to anyoneelse in out familly, thanxs for the advice , i wouldnt of gone to my mum if it wasnt for u guys. I still got a long way to go but lets just hope it will get better than worse.





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