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Fabat- Thanks for your suggestion. I had this guy who actually volunteered to be my rebound! Haha- a few weeks after my ex dumped me. I was a little wierded out by that, and I was sooo not into the idea of touching another guy, especially since I didnt even know if it was over with my ex yet. but he had always flirted with me when I was WITH my now-ex, so I took him up on it, and then after he got what he wanted he said he didn't 'want to get emotionally attached'. So that was a short rebound! Ugh. A boy toy would be great, it just seems I a) either get emotionally attached, or b) they flake out.

Sophia- Im the one with the Muslim ex, like you- my story is all over this board, I think you might remember it?
Its been 3.5 months since the 'break-up', and around 2.5 since he actually said 'Im not coming back'. i was with him for almost 2 years, very intensely. It ended with me being very angry after i found out about the new girl, and I pretty much poured my heart out, to which he responded "I dont deserve this (!)", and I told him I hated him. I dont think he will be calling me after all that...ever. Especially now that he has a new 'girlfriend'. Its interesting to think that you think that, though...you really think he will? It would be great for me to not give him the time of day if that were to happen. I juts have a feeling he is totally over me and is with her now, and will not be contacting me ever again.
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Sophia- Im the one with the Muslim ex, like you- my story is all over this board, I think you might remember it?
Its been 3.5 months since the 'break-up', and around 2.5 since he actually said 'Im not coming back'. i was with him for almost 2 years, very intensely. It ended with me being very angry after i found out about the new girl, and I pretty much poured my heart out, to which he responded "I dont deserve this (!)", and I told him I hated him. I dont think he will be calling me after all that...ever. Especially now that he has a new 'girlfriend'. Its interesting to think that you think that, though...you really think he will? It would be great for me to not give him the time of day if that were to happen. I juts have a feeling he is totally over me and is with her now, and will not be contacting me ever again.[/QUOTE]

Citygirl, of course I remember you and your story. And I still think he'll be calling you at some point in the future. It almost doesn't matter what they say. Mine said a few times he never wanted to speak to me again, even changed his phone number twice, but always ends up calling me himself eventually. It's not like I went out of my way to find him each time. Now it's different cause he moved to another country, but he'll probably reappear somehow sooner or later. Yes, the hardest part is to be strong and not take him back. I hope by the time your ex starts calling you will be happilly involved with another guy. What Opie said is true--falling in love with someone else is the absolute best method to get over an ex.
Maybe I'm just not yet strong enough to pray for his happiness when it comes to being with another woman. I hope some day I will be.

In the mean time, whatever prevents me from calling him and begging him to take me back is the road I choose... It isn't hurting anyone and even if he does find someone else, I still think I'm better and he lost out. ;)
[QUOTE=Murray67980]Maybe I'm just not yet strong enough to pray for his happiness when it comes to being with another woman. I hope some day I will be.

In the mean time, whatever prevents me from calling him and begging him to take me back is the road I choose... It isn't hurting anyone and even if he does find someone else, I still think I'm better and he lost out. ;)[/QUOTE]

Good thinking, Murray :) I actually prefer to think my ex is miserable too. It helps to a degree. I figure he wasn't such a happy camper to begin with, and he's probably even more miserable now. So, I'm miserable too, but at least I'm a lot easier to get along with than he is, and am not such a critical, confused, high strung person as he is. I'm thinking if he could not get along with me, he will never get along with any woman. And you're right, in a way it does feel better to know that we had no choice in this, while they might have regrets later for making the wrong decision breaking up with us. I just wish I could be happilly involved with a great guy who treats me like a princess, so that when that selfish jerk calls again, I can tell him to go where the sun doesn't shine. That would feel so great, wouldn't it?





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