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[QUOTE=Hiya]My brother works with this nice lady and she had a jam party last night, and we all got out our guitars and played and had fun. They were all so very nice, and really cool. There was even one guy there that I thought was pretty cute, thoug I didn't get to talk to him too much, but I had fun, and for the first time in eight years, I really enjoyed the company of really cool people that I know I will see again, and with whom I have a real chance at forming real friendships. And for the first time, I fully realized just what huge, unbelievable a-holes my ex and his buddies were. When I compare to how I was treated last night to how I was treated around those jerks, it was like night and day. I can't believe I ever wanted to put up with the things I went through with them, or that I ever wanted to revisit that time in my life. I still miss the good parts of what I had with the ex, and probably always will as long as I'm alone, but I didn't wake up this morning with that sinking, achy sadness I always do.
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I am very happy to hear you had such a wonderful time last night, Hiya! See, it makes a huge difference to be surrounded by people who genuinely like and appreciate you. So good to hear you didn't wake up with that heavy feeling in your chest, and I hope that very soon, that feeling will be gone for good!

I've been waking up without that heavy feeling lately also. I don't know, maybe it's the approaching Spring, or I don't know what, but I've started to feel a lot more detached from my ex-bf. I think he was a jerk for playing with my emotions, coming back and always disappearing, hanging up on me, etc. It's something I don't want to experience again. I actually had a nice time last night also--was invited to an event through my university, and met a lot of people who were not from my department there. We went out for a drink afterwards and I had some interesting conversations with some of them. Even exchanged numbers with two guys, who seem like they could be nice friends, although I don't find them physically attractive, and one is plainly too young (probably around 23 or 24 LOL). When I was leaving, this girl was trying to persuade me to stay longer because I'm "so much fun" and that was the best compliment I heard in a while--it really made my day!
So, I do have some renewed hope that things might start to look up for me soon. Also, last week I had to attend a conference also related to my school, and there was a cute, young doctor there who kept checking me out and smiled at me a couple of times, although he didn't ask for my number (didn't really have an opportunity, either). This is the one frustrating thing that I keep encountering over and over again: the guys who I want to go out with and wish they would ask me out don't usually ask me out, even if they look at me and/or flirt with me. If that one thing changed, I would be so happy.
[QUOTE=SophiaM]I've been waking up without that heavy feeling lately also. I don't know, maybe it's the approaching Spring, or I don't know what, but I've started to feel a lot more detached from my ex-bf. I think he was a jerk for playing with my emotions, coming back and always disappearing, hanging up on me, etc. It's something I don't want to experience again. I actually had a nice time last night also--was invited to an event through my university, and met a lot of people who were not from my department there. We went out for a drink afterwards and I had some interesting conversations with some of them. Even exchanged numbers with two guys, who seem like they could be nice friends, although I don't find them physically attractive, and one is plainly too young (probably around 23 or 24 LOL). When I was leaving, this girl was trying to persuade me to stay longer because I'm "so much fun" and that was the best compliment I heard in a while--it really made my day!
So, I do have some renewed hope that things might start to look up for me soon. Also, last week I had to attend a conference also related to my school, and there was a cute, young doctor there who kept checking me out and smiled at me a couple of times, although he didn't ask for my number (didn't really have an opportunity, either). This is the one frustrating thing that I keep encountering over and over again: the guys who I want to go out with and wish they would ask me out don't usually ask me out, even if they look at me and/or flirt with me. If that one thing changed, I would be so happy.[/QUOTE]

I'm very happy to hear you had a good night as well, and you're feeling better about things! :bouncing: :) Isn't is nuts how we women seem to do this to ourselves? Carry all these bad feelings and emotions because of some scraggly, emotionally sick, loser of a guy and walk around for years feeling horrible about being alive, while they skip on their merry little way after lying and using and manipulating and having their fun, barely even looking over their shoulder to say "gee, I hope you get over it soon!" GGRRRRRRRR!!! We just have to keep the faith that it'll all unfold for the best, and the universe has our well being in mind as well as theirs. I've been re-reading and contemplating on the Desiterada lately, do you know it? It's sort of a prose poem that was discovered in 1921 in some church archives I think. Anyway, it's a really good poem, sort of spiritual, common sense rules for life. I guess forum rules say I can't print copyrighted material here, but you may have heard it, or parts of it, the main stanza about being a child of the universe, and you have the right to be here, and whether you know it or not, the universe is unfolding the way it's supposed to. It's a really beautiful piece of work.
Anyway, I really hope things keep looking up for you, and that sad, heavy sinking feeling stays gone for you too!





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