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Ok, so as most of you know, I was recently dumped by the guy who I thought I was going to marry...

Now I feel like I have no control over my life and I need someone to knock some sense into me!

Here's what is going on...

1) I met a man last year while my ex and I were on a break (that was the first time he dumped me)... This man has a job where he travels non-stop. His home is still half way across the country from me, but he is in my city about every 2 weeks. We had a strong physical connection (no sex, but a lot of intamacy), but I can't say that I trust him. He's a mystery to me and for all I know, he could have a wife and kids somewhere...
But he did say all the right things and he wined and dined me big time. He's 12 years older than me, but I'm used to that since my ex was also 12 years older...
Anyway, this guy single handedly got me over my ex the first time we split, but I broke things off with him when my ex and I got back together.
Now, out of the blue, mystery man calls me... After a year he just happens to call right when I become single again. Is it fate? Or is it freaky?
So, I met him for a drink a couple weeks ago while he was in town. Nothing major happened, just kissing. He was very verbal about the way he feels about me and even said he was in love with me (a bit fast).... He said he would wait forever for me... He has a lot of money and made it seem like he would move to me and give me whatever I want if I choose him..
Well, if I were thinking clearly, I would tell myself that he's a liar and just trying to get into my pants. But, when you feel as low as I do, sometimes an "over-the-top" affair like this can feel good. Its like an escape from reality. But I have a feeling it will make me feel worse in the end.
Like I said, I know nothing about him. I ask questions, he answers them, but I just don't feel like I can trust him. He's too over-the-top. He tells me how beautiful I am non-stop! Its nice to hear after having your heart trampled on, but its not realistic.
He's in town for one night and I don't know if I should see him or not... I need to decide fast though...

Now, on to my 2nd problem...

2) I also have a very stong feeling that my ex has bought a ring and plans on trying to win me back. He has called me crying and begging for another chance. He has sent flowers. He looks at me with sad eyes all the time as if he's about to break down at any moment...
The reason I think he has a ring (or is at leasting searching for one) is because we work together and I over heard my boss giving him the name of his jewler. I won't get into details...but I know he wants to marry me. If I gave him the slightest inclination that I would say yes, I could be engaged by lunch time to the man that I love...
The problem is, he has wanted this before and I am so afraid of being hurt again.
I love my ex and I do beleive he wants to marry me. But thats not to say he won't chicken out again... But deap in his heart, I know he wants to marry me. He is my best friend, we have become a part of each others families, we have the same values and morals, he would be a great father, I want nothing more than to live the rest of my life with him....
But he has messed up one to many times and I don't trust him with my heart right now.... I also don't think he really deserves me after what he's put me through...twice.
I'm so confused....

I have also tried the whole "be on my own thing"... I tell myself not to worry about men and focus on myself. Easier said than done.... I am totally focussed on myself! Trust me... I am putting me first, but my mind seems to change every 10 minutes! Sometimes "me" wants to go back to my ex, settle down, have a family, and forget about the past.
Other times, "me" wants to go have fun, be single, and not worry about a thing.
As for the rest of my life...such as school, work, friends, family...they all come before and man problem right now. I am keeping it together, but I don't know what to do about my ex or this out of town guy....

And... I still have to give these men some answers... They aren't going to just go away and leave me alone until I figure out what I want!



Somebody tell me what to do. Please... I'm not thinking straight.





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