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I might be being silly about this, but it all started when i met my g/f in the club by myself and she was with her mates so i joined in dancing with them, after a while she told me to go away and that im a ***** dancer! that made me feel bad, any way she then started dancing with other men while i was watching her looking like an idiot by my self! but what hurts me she is dancing really close to them by touching her legs and waist.
Im just worried that when she goes out without me she does more than dancing with them i mean kissing i dont think she will get in bed with them. I have spoke to her about it but she thinks its OK!!

Been with her for over 2 years now every thing is going great but this is really bugging me.

Am i being stupid about this any help will be great!
Thanks
Sorry, I have to disagree here, although I'm sure I'm in the minority. If she is otu dancing with friends, what is the big deal? Even if she flirts with men while dancing, is that really such a big deal? Flirting is a normal, natural part of life...and I think it's perfectly healthy, either you trust her or you don't. If someone is going to cheat they are going to cheat, whether it be at a club or online or at work. If this is how your girlfriends is, as in likes to go out with freinds dancing, than you either need to trust her or not. Maybe you need a girl who is more of a homebody type. But to put it in perpective, I am married and have a child, and I like to go out dancing with my friends, and yes sometimes we meet guys and flirt with them, doesn't mean anything, I still go home to my husband. My girlfriends and I even like to go out of town once in a while just the girls and shop and go out dancing and stuff, my husband trusts me completely. And my husband is the same, I have walked in at the bar and seen him talking to girls, being a little bit flirty, no big deal, I'm secure with our relationship, and I know if he does cheat, well that is his loss anyways. He even has some women friends that he likes to dance with, doesn't bother me. But flirting is flirting, and we fell it is a normal part of life. Touching on a dance floor ddoesn't really mean much, it's just dancing/ Honestly, I think you have a few options here. Break up with her over this and find a girl who is more a homebody and doesn't go out dancing. Or learn to trust her and let her have her nights out without you ( I mean why were you there anyways, were you checking up on her). Or talk to her and come to a compromise of some sort, like maybe she goes out less but when she does go out she doesn't get a hard time from you. I don't know, just throwing ideas out there.
[QUOTE=dave415415]I might be being silly about this, but it all started when i met my g/f in the club by myself and she was with her mates so i joined in dancing with them, after a while she told me to go away and that im a ***** dancer! that made me feel bad, any way she then started dancing with other men while i was watching her looking like an idiot by my self! but what hurts me she is dancing really close to them by touching her legs and waist.
Im just worried that when she goes out without me she does more than dancing with them i mean kissing i dont think she will get in bed with them. I have spoke to her about it but she thinks its OK!!

Been with her for over 2 years now every thing is going great but this is really bugging me.

Am i being stupid about this any help will be great!
Thanks[/QUOTE]

Oh no Dave, it's not the dancing bit that bothers you, it's the disrespect that she shows you. When I read the title of your post, I thought you must be insecure. Now I see that SHE is MAKING you insecure, she is excluding you, and wants you to be her audience. She asked you not to dance with them????? That's rude.
My bf has never been a *great* dancer but he enjoys it and we have fun. Dancing is not always a show and a way to womens' knickers.
It's a great way to to feel in control of your body, to feel happy. Please don't let her put you off, and if she asks you to leave her alone next time, don't stand there watching her, go and dance with other beautiful women. I think beautiful women and good dancers don't mind at all a bit of fun :)
Dancing can be just that...dancing...and if you are out with a group of mixed friends dancing with the other sex there is that understanding and trust between you then it's just dancing...but unfortunatly if a girl goes to a club with a guy and publicly pushes him away and starts grinding on other guys this sends all the wrong messages to everyone...I think you have a right to be upset...and she should understand that she is attracting trouble...not every guy who is out there drinking and sees her blow off her boyfriend and start grinding on them will think it is innocent...
I think that this is just another debate thing and all of us posters have our own opinions about things. But as one poster said that she and her man go out and they are ok with mingling with others because they know who they really love. That's fine...but make no mistake! Supposedly innocent flirting can easily become something else whether you love the other person or not! Hormones are always there and sometimes love just isn't enough to keep things from happening. A lot of people with this kind of openess find themselves cheated on and then they can't believe it happened because they are "so in love" and "how could he (or she) have done this..I trusted them!" We are all human and trust only goes so far! I say that if this situation is making you unhappy, you need to talk to your girlfriend now! And don't feel like an insecure jerk for approaching her about it! You have every right to be respected!





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