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And yeah, i realized that i should definately stop. I just tell her because my ex did dumb things that used to make me really mad, so i just tried to subtly tell her the dumb things she used to do and what kind of things i did in response, so she knows what things i cannot stand. I guess she doesnt know that my past relationship (with that ex) ended horribly, and i avoid her now at all costs. Now she is a tramp, does tons of drugs, and has a very different personality.

I do understand that it was a terrible idea to bring her up so much, i havent yet since i realized this on Sunday.
Thing is, it doesn't matter if you hate your ex and wish her the very worst. Even if you bring your ex up in a negative light, what it shows your new girlfriend is that you're still thinking about your ex, in one way or another! She's still occupying your mind. Nobody wants that. No one wants to be pulled into the drama from your past, and reminded of how your ex did things, even if they were BAD things. I'm glad you realized that though, and make it a habit not to bring her up ever again. If you hate her, or are mad at her - that is still an emotion. Nobody wants to think of their boyfriend still having ANY kind of emotion for an ex.

[QUOTE]I just tell her because my ex did dumb things that used to make me really mad, so i just tried to subtly tell her the dumb things she used to do and what kind of things i did in response, so she knows what things i cannot stand. [/QUOTE]

Does that really work? Whenever someone tells me not to do something because it annoys them, I make it a point to do it quite frequently. I don't think telling someone "Well, this is what my ex did, and she woke up missing an eyebrow" (paraphrasing, of course) is all that effective. I mean, do you really rattle off lists of things you can't stand in a girlfriend and the subsequent punishments? That would be kind of off-putting, I'd think.
Yes, to me this is a very bad sign. Shes behaving like this after a week? I dont care how much you mentioned the ex, that doesnt justify her behavior. Ive been in similar situations and youre in for a headache. I find it especially bad that she looked in your phone, but you couldnt see hers.

When I dated the woman with severe trust issues, I was basically paying for all the guys that screwed her over in the past. After 3 months of this crap, she eventually ended it because she couldnt take dating a guy who was nice to her. She was just constantly looking for faults and things that werent there and it drove her nuts.





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