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[QUOTE=angel_light]Guys should be the ones more like it that should count their blessings, we put up with so much more( I think)...[/QUOTE]

what more do women put up with? you have the right to be moody and demanding, a man has none of that. our society still holds onto the fact women hold the upper hand in a relationship (if you get annoyed at your boyfriend, you could go out and score male companionship without question. the reverse isn't true).

i think that in a healthy relationship, both partners should count their blessings. and each others company should be enough, why should there be a deficite that a guy has to make up for by spending money?
[QUOTE=mada_3083]what more do women put up with? you have the right to be moody and demanding, a man has none of that. our society still holds onto the fact women hold the upper hand in a relationship (if you get annoyed at your boyfriend, you could go out and score male companionship without question. the reverse isn't true)[/QUOTE]

What?! Unless you like smelly, skeevy old losers, it's really not that easy.

And women have more of a burden when it comes to birth control and raising kids.

As for the topic: I don't care about money, as long as I have enough to be comfy - i.e. not living from paycheck to paycheck. But I would not expect some guy to support me.
Well, everyone has a different opinion on this of course, and to each their own. For me personally, YES my boyfriend should spend a lot of money on me. I keep him happy and fulfilled in the bedroom, and he buys me a lot of stuff. I like this arrangement. We are far enough along in our relationship that I buy him the occassional dinner or coffee or small gift. But the simple truth about me is that I do not like spending my own money. I do work full-time at the moment, though I hate working. I have plenty of money that I have put away, but I don't like to spend it. That is why I have a boyfriend.

A guy who isn't paying my way in the beginning wouldn't get very far with me. Call me spoiled or what have you, but that is just how I am. I am very demanding and I know what I want. I like people to buy stuff for me, I like gifts. So that is what I get. Now I understand the joy of being totally independent and knowing you don't have to answer to a man or owe him anything. But then again I would never be with a man who was abusive or condescending, not for all of the money in the world.

Everyone has a different idea of what makes them happy in a relationship. For my boyfriend it is to get a lot of wild sex, and for me it is to get a lot of gifts. I could live the rest of my life without sex, I don't care about that. And my boyfriend makes plenty of money plus his family is wealthy, so he don't need nothin'. It works out perfect.


[QUOTE] you have the right to be moody and demanding, a man has none of that. [/QUOTE]

Well...yes, we do have the right to be moody because we ARE. I know men can't understand, but most women really do get all whacked out because of their hormones when they are PMSing. For the most part, it is beyond our control. And trust me, it isn't any fun for the woman, either. It really sucks, though I have been learning how to work with it. It isn't like we ask for it. To one minute be tearful, then so annoyed you wants to throw things against the wall the next, then happy, then sad...it's no picnic, and it's not like we're just being theatrical for the hell of it. :)
[QUOTE=mada_3083]what more do women put up with? you have the right to be moody and demanding, a man has none of that. our society still holds onto the fact women hold the upper hand in a relationship (if you get annoyed at your boyfriend, you could go out and score male companionship without question. the reverse isn't true).
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This is so wrong on so many levels I don't even know where to begin!

Men can be just as moody and demanding, if not moreso. I myself dated a man who was extremely moody. And I have a friend who is very demanding and very insistent in his views on religion and such, that he will yell and scream at you when he gets mad and feels very justified in doing so. Plus, 10 women every single day are murdered by a husband or lover, and every 12 seconds, a woman is beaten. And the scoring male companionship, I have no idea where in the world that came from, but cheating isn't ok on either side of the scale, and men still cheat more often than women do.
[QUOTE=GypsyArcher]Well, everyone has a different opinion on this of course, and to each their own. For me personally, YES my boyfriend should spend a lot of money on me. I keep him happy and fulfilled in the bedroom, and he buys me a lot of stuff. I like this arrangement. We are far enough along in our relationship that I buy him the occassional dinner or coffee or small gift. But the simple truth about me is that I do not like spending my own money. I do work full-time at the moment, though I hate working. I have plenty of money that I have put away, but I don't like to spend it. That is why I have a boyfriend.

A guy who isn't paying my way in the beginning wouldn't get very far with me. Call me spoiled or what have you, but that is just how I am. I am very demanding and I know what I want. I like people to buy stuff for me, I like gifts. So that is what I get. Now I understand the joy of being totally independent and knowing you don't have to answer to a man or owe him anything. But then again I would never be with a man who was abusive or condescending, not for all of the money in the world.

Everyone has a different idea of what makes them happy in a relationship. For my boyfriend it is to get a lot of wild sex, and for me it is to get a lot of gifts. I could live the rest of my life without sex, I don't care about that. And my boyfriend makes plenty of money plus his family is wealthy, so he don't need nothin'. It works out perfect.




Well...yes, we do have the right to be moody because we ARE. I know men can't understand, but most women really do get all whacked out because of their hormones when they are PMSing. For the most part, it is beyond our control. And trust me, it isn't any fun for the woman, either. It really sucks, though I have been learning how to work with it. It isn't like we ask for it. To one minute be tearful, then so annoyed you wants to throw things against the wall the next, then happy, then sad...it's no picnic, and it's not like we're just being theatrical for the hell of it. :) [/QUOTE]

You're right - I guess what it comes down to is that everyone has their own opinion. What matters is finding someone that has the same opinion and not settling for something else. There's really no right and wrong. One person's idea of perfect is another person's nightmare after all!


[QUOTE=Hiya]Men can be just as moody and demanding, if not moreso. I myself dated a man who was extremely moody. And I have a friend who is very demanding and very insistent in his views on religion and such, that he will yell and scream at you when he gets mad and feels very justified in doing so. Plus, 10 women every single day are murdered by a husband or lover, and every 12 seconds, a woman is beaten. And the scoring male companionship, I have no idea where in the world that came from, but cheating isn't ok on either side of the scale, and men still cheat more often than women do.[/QUOTE]

How true! Well said Hiya!
[QUOTE=GypsyArcher]Well, everyone has a different opinion on this of course, and to each their own. For me personally, YES my boyfriend should spend a lot of money on me. I keep him happy and fulfilled in the bedroom, and he buys me a lot of stuff. I like this arrangement. We are far enough along in our relationship that I buy him the occassional dinner or coffee or small gift. But the simple truth about me is that I do not like spending my own money. I do work full-time at the moment, though I hate working. I have plenty of money that I have put away, but I don't like to spend it. That is why I have a boyfriend.

A guy who isn't paying my way in the beginning wouldn't get very far with me. Call me spoiled or what have you, but that is just how I am. I am very demanding and I know what I want. I like people to buy stuff for me, I like gifts. So that is what I get. Now I understand the joy of being totally independent and knowing you don't have to answer to a man or owe him anything. But then again I would never be with a man who was abusive or condescending, not for all of the money in the world.

Everyone has a different idea of what makes them happy in a relationship. For my boyfriend it is to get a lot of wild sex, and for me it is to get a lot of gifts. I could live the rest of my life without sex, I don't care about that.

Well...yes, we do have the right to be moody because we ARE. I know men can't understand, but most women really do get all whacked out because of their hormones when they are PMSing. For the most part, it is beyond our control. [/QUOTE]

i read this post in an attempt to pick up on the fact you were joking :rolleyes:

if your not enjoying sex, then either they aren't doing it right, or there is something wrong with you... oh and a tip... if your not enjoying it, then it's probably not as wild as you imagine...

again... prostitution = sex being exchanged for money/ material goods... this is frowned apon, yet relationships that push that same message are accepted?





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