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Re: Worried....
May 6, 2006
Hi guys!
Thanks again for the replies. This has been quite the rollercoaster. As I said, he's been flirty on and off since 1/2 year into our relationship! I have worked through forgiving him and here we are again.
I spoke to a couple of his friends and they tell me he doesn't come across as a womanizer. So why do I get this impression! I mean you see for yourself.
He does tell me that he would like to repair things for us. Also he told me that none of the girls at the office would be suitable for him. Why the Hell do I have to be under this kind of comparison constantly?! I would rather hear that he doesn't care to find out wether they are suitable for him or not, because he has me. Altough thigs aren't rosey with us, to me commitment is about trying to work things out, not running.
I think he's too dumb to play mind games - he just doesn't have the capacity. It's more that he's just bluntly honest and considers people replacable - as long as they suite HIM.

>>>It's like he's on some high horse or something and his ego is big right now because of all this attention he's getting from these girls! I'm sorry, but this goes way beyond friends with the opposite sex!<<<
I definitelly feel that! He tells me he's getting the recognition and praise at work that he doesn't get home. I'm sure he's getting a lot of attention too and he doesn't hesitate to tell me that this or that girl likes to chat it up with him, because she likes him - definitely some mind games there, but pretty primitive ones.
Also, he had a 'casual' girlfriend when he was very keenly working on picking me up and I only found out later. So I can just imagine how he's 'with-holding truth'. He dumped her 4 days after he met me. I thought that was pretty harsh, but he insisted that she was only a '****-buddy' and he told her that he's not going to get serious with her eventhough he knew that she kinda liked him. I'm only finding out all these details now. What a user! It's really true that love is blind, because eventhough I saw his behavior somehow he made me believe I was going to be special, but now he's being very blunt with me too.
I will have to work on numbing my feelings for him, get it together and get ready for leaving I guess, but it will take some time.

But jenna_250,
why is it that people flirt? I mean, you are in love with your boyfriend, right? Why do you still need to attract the opposite sex?
Don't take it personally, but I think my boyfriend is doing it to gain some confidence.
Also, if our relationship was solid and he showed enough affection for me, I wouldn't be jealous, but he's very reserved and that makes me insecure about his emotions.
Last week I was trying to be very nice and affectionate with him after we had a bad spell, but I wasn't seeing anything back. I confronted him about it and he told me that lately he hasn't been feeling like it. :(
Re: Worried....
May 6, 2006
Hi guys!
Thanks again for the replies. This has been quite the rollercoaster. As I said, he's been flirty on and off since 1/2 year into our relationship! I have worked through forgiving him and here we are again.
I spoke to a couple of his friends and they tell me he doesn't come across as a womanizer. So why do I get this impression! I mean you see for yourself.
He does tell me that he would like to repair things for us. Also he told me that none of the girls at the office would be suitable for him. Why the Hell do I have to be under this kind of comparison constantly?! I would rather hear that he doesn't care to find out wether they are suitable for him or not, because he has me. Altough thigs aren't rosey with us, to me commitment is about trying to work things out, not running.
I think he's too dumb to play mind games - he just doesn't have the capacity. It's more that he's just bluntly honest and considers people replacable - as long as they suite HIM.

>>>It's like he's on some high horse or something and his ego is big right now because of all this attention he's getting from these girls! I'm sorry, but this goes way beyond friends with the opposite sex!<<<
I definitelly feel that! He tells me he's getting the recognition and praise at work that he doesn't get home. I'm sure he's getting a lot of attention too and he doesn't hesitate to tell me that this or that girl likes to chat it up with him, because she likes him - definitely some mind games there, but pretty primitive ones.
Also, he had a 'casual' girlfriend when he was very keenly working on picking me up and I only found out later. So I can just imagine how he's 'with-holding truth'. He dumped her 4 days after he met me. I thought that was pretty harsh, but he insisted that she was only a '****-buddy' and he told her that he's not going to get serious with her eventhough he knew that she kinda liked him. I'm only finding out all these details now. What a user! It's really true that love is blind, because eventhough I saw his behavior somehow he made me believe I was going to be special, but now he's being very blunt with me too.
I will have to work on numbing my feelings for him, get it together and get ready for leaving I guess, but it will take some time.

But jenna_250,
why is it that people flirt? I mean, you are in love with your boyfriend, right? Why do you still need to attract the opposite sex?
Don't take it personally, but I think my boyfriend is doing it to gain some confidence.
Also, if our relationship was solid and he showed enough affection for me, I wouldn't be jealous, but he's very reserved and that makes me insecure about his emotions.
Last week I was trying to be very nice and affectionate with him after we had a bad spell, but I wasn't seeing anything back. I confronted him about it and he told me that lately he haven't been feeling like it. :(





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