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I do wonder about the disinterest in sex, my mums disabled so shes at home ALL the time so we never get the house to ourselves, and he has 6 brothers and sisters so we cant go to his packed house. And im afraid sex isn't the same when your mother is next door! can't afford to rent, hes a student and im on a low wage cause im having to have a voluntary job to get onto my uni course, and i work part time in a shop.

I don't worry that I don't love my boyfriend, becuase I do. I do worry that I'm too independant. I'm used to looking after my mum and getting on with things, I find it hard when he's around all the time. Even sharing the bed, Im fine for a couple of nights but its so nice when he leaves so that I can stretch out! I'm quite independant. It isnt just him, i've never really been into sex or oral or whatever.... the only time ive had a high sex drive was with my last bf, and our relationship was SO bad it was as if we were trying to overcompensate with the one thing that actually worked between the two of us. And I was on the pill then but it made me ill so my current partner and i just use condoms and Im absolutely terrified of getting pregnant. That + the disabled mum next door = no fun!

dewdrop are u scared to really go for it in case your child hears? a girl I know has a kid and she dates this bloke and their sex is so loud they wake the poor kid up in the middle of the night!

It's also that question that even if I love him, do I love him ENOUGH? I wouldnt say im a romantic, I don't like flowers, i hate celebrating anniversaries etc, and I really wouldnt mind the thought of being a single mother.

Hmmm. come to think of it it doesnt help that all of my mums friends that visit have divorced their husbands. Plus I work at a school and most of the women I have lunch with, and go out with (parents and teachers) are unhappy with their partners and are considering a divorce. So I have lots of people around me telling me that men aren't important, than women are independant and dont need men anymore, that men are just another responsibility and loads of trouble etc etc. I don't know one happy marriage. And the happiest women I know are all single parents/divorcees and have no intention of getting a partner.

But my partner is so lovely - hes nice to my family, he fixes things around the house for my mum, he cleans up without having to ask him to, he flutters around me when I return from work and he makes me a cuppa tea. Hes ALWAYS telling me im beautiful and doesnt care if i lose or put on weight. He's perfect partner in many respects. People tell me I'm lucky. But his age and inexperience does worry me because I think he may be more likely to cheat on me in later years. But I guess whatever happens, happens right? Theres no point in worrying about it.

So many mixes messages! Maybe therapy is in order :)

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