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Hey guys - its been a while.

Ive been hanging out with this gorgeous guy - this gorgeous yet REALLY shy guy. Seemed like things were going great - he introduced me to his mom, we hungout with his buddies, he's inviting me to camp with him - then I dont really hear from him.

I dont have a cellphone so he can not really call me. I live with a friend who has a baby boy so, calling is limited. The ring will wake the baby up - no question about it. He knows all about it, so we basically established that its best if I rang him. He tells me to call him in an hour - I do - but he wont pick up.

I just met this guy so its not like Im desperate to have a relationship with him. I just dont want him to waste my time. I dont understand why he would tell me to call him if he doesnt want to talk to me. I was telling one of my guy friends and he admits doing that to girls he is not interested in. He says its easier to get them off the phone by telling the girl to call back and just not answer. The girl will get it at some point that you dont want to talk to her - see, i think thats really rude. Id rather him tell me he is not interested - all these games are so childish and immature - I really dont have time for it.

Whats the best thing to do? Should I just ignore him? Or am I thinking a little too much?
[QUOTE=Hazel_Eyes]Hey guys - its been a while.

I was telling one of my guy friends and he admits doing that to girls he is not interested in. He says its easier to get them off the phone by telling the girl to call back and just not answer. The girl will get it at some point that you dont want to talk to her - see, i think thats really rude. Id rather him tell me he is not interested - all these games are so childish and immature - I really dont have time for it.

Whats the best thing to do? Should I just ignore him? Or am I thinking a little too much?[/QUOTE]

No, I dont' think you're thinking too much, you're just being a woman, and relationships and romance usually takes a priority position in most women's lives.

Yes, I think that's incredibly rude, as well as hurtful, but that's men. Men are capable of being very hurtful, deceitful and dishonest and not even think twice about it. That's just how they are when a woman just really isn't driving them crazy with desire. They dont' think of us really as fellow humans, deserving of the respect and dignity and courtesy they would show each other. I don't know why men are wired this way, they just are, and we just have to deal with it. Does he have an answering machine or a voice mail that picks up when you call? If so, the next time he says "call me in an hour" and he doesn't pick up when you do call, then I'd just leave a message, something like "returning your call/calling you back. You can cal me today between x pm and x pm (when you know the baby most likely won't be awakened) or tomorrow at x or x am/pm." And leave it at that. Wait for him to call you. If he doesn't, you'll know just how interested he was in you. But already, I'd say it doesn't look real good for having a budding, hot and heavy or even sweet and tender real relationship of any kind. If you never communicate, how can you get to know each other? If he is already this ok with staying away or not talking to you so much, he's probably already made up his mind. Even the most intensely shy men will make an effort to communicate with you or see you when he's really into you.
[QUOTE]I talked to my aunt about it - we are really close - and she told me that its just the way guys are. she says guys dont really think much about calling a girl. women will wait for men to call, but men dont do that. In fact, she told me that this guy probably doesnt even think there is a problem.[/QUOTE]

I know men can be dim, but hopefully not that dim. If this guy tells you to call at a certain time, you do, and then he is not even there to answer the phone, then that is just disrespect. He can't be that interested in you, or else he WOULD go out of his way to make sure he was able to take your call. I wouldn't keep bothering with him - he does not seem worth the effort.





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