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Re: Is this weird?
May 30, 2006
It is so nice to come on here and get advice from you lot, whether you agree with me or not, it's refreshing to get an unbiased view.

desertdweller - i wish I could do what you do! Apart from anything else it is a way of fulfilling your partners sexual needs without having to do an awful lot, if you're not in the mood for any particular reason. But i wouldn't know where to look, and I'd eventually have to join in because I felt so uncomfortable, and I don't want to get into a routine whereby he thinks he can get sex by turning the pressure on.

susieq0726 - It does get to the point where it kinda grosses you out. Especially when they want it no matter what. We spent til 2am chatting about it even tho all I wanted to do was sleep and wake up feeling better....and we didn't end the conversation well because he said "never mind, go to sleep" and eventually told me that he was going downstairs to knock one off...I said fine. And even though the conversation ended badly, he woke up the next morning all cuddly and apologising and wanted a bit of rough and tumble. Maybe i'm being sensitive, but I don't fancy a kiss and a cuddle and hanky panky after being told that my partner wants to go and spread his seed, and until he does he will feel unfulfilled.

sandra2005 - I would split with the option of MAYBE getting back together in the future, but not definitely getting back together. I am going back to university and I can't promise I won't meet anyone else if we split up, and vica versa. But splitting up and letting him do his thing is the only way around the issue that I can see. I don't want him to stay with me if he feels sexually unfulfilled because he wants to 'spread his seed'. And I'm also not going to give him sex whenever HE wants it JUST to keep him with me, because that will only make matters complicated in the future when I inevitably stop playing the game.

I'm quite an easy going partner really, I don't ask much of him and I'm understanding. I understand why he wants to experience sex with different partners, after all he's a 21 year old male....but he can't sleep around while he's WITH me, and I'm not prepared to be his sex toy, so the only option that leaves is splitting up. but he doesn't want to do that because he says he loves me, and he wants to settle down with me. I can't really help him because the end of the day the ball is in his court, and as much as I love him I don't want to MAKE him do anything.

It's just such a shame because our relationship is so good in every other respect. It's such a shame that a good relationship has to end because of a sex issue.


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