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If she is happy, what's the problem?
When you describe your friend, you could be describing my aunt. She lives and breathes for her family. She has never even been on a date and she's 51 years old! When her mom died, she was very sad. To this day, almost 10 years later, she still cries when her mother's name is mentioned.
My aunt LOVES children, but never had any of her own. She talks about her nieces and nephews as if they are her children. She knows they aren't, but she loves them as a mother loves her children. I can definitely see her having more fun baby-sitting her nephew than going out with people her own age.

In my opinion, my aunt lives a sad and lonely life. But what do I know?
Sure, itís not the life I would choose. But she is one of the most wonderful human beings I have ever met. She even beat the odds and overcame a disease that doctors said would kill her within a year. That was 6 years ago! I believe a person has to be pretty mentally healthy to do that!
So although I know that I myself would never be fulfilled with the life that my aunt lives, I envy her. She's not always wanting more... She is happy with what she has.
If she is missing out on so much living, why is she so at peace with her life? Why is she the only person I know who I've never heard bi*ch or complain about their life?(Which is more than I can say for many of the people I know who have money, a husband, kids, boat, social lives, ect...)

It sounds like your friend is happy being who she is. The fact that she said "I have a date with a 7 year old" shows how fun-loving and happy she was to be spending time with her nephew. Its not like she said, "Nope, gotta watch the kid again, as usual"...
If you want to be a good friend, let her be happy being who she is.
You may just have to accept that you will never have the kind of friendship that you want to have with her. But you can still love her and be there for her, as I'm sure she is for you.
Happiness means different things for different people. Not everyone needs romance, sex, social life, ect...
Sometimes I wish I was of those people, because honestly, that stuff usually leads to disappointment and broken hearts anyway... haha
To each, their own... :)

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