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Hi everyone and thanks again. You all have helped me in different ways because I can have trouble viewing these things objectively without advice, but it's hard for me to confide in any one person about these matters because I don't want to be judged.

So this situation is a tad more complicated than I explained before. As you know my ex is H, but there is also a guy named J from my college in the picture, as well as now another very old high school friend, B, who I have been hanging out with recently. Three guys, probably not good, but I'm not sure if there will be overlap or not. OK, so J is going to move in a few months, around the same time H will be moving back here. B is already here and will probably stay here; I am super close with his family in addition to just him.

I forgot to tell you some stuff about me and H that might present obstacles. First of all, I think he either STRONGLY suspects or outright knows that I cheated on him toward the end of our official relationship. Second, his older brother, who is kind of a crackhead, I'm not sure how much they tell each other, knows that I have hooked up with some other guys we both know. I am not sure if that affects the way H views me and our situation, but it certainly could be having some impact. On the other hand, he could just have stopped talking to me. I guess only time will tell.

Also, I like this other friend of mine, B, quite a bit. In fact he spent the night with me over the weekend (don't judge please), and we had an amazing time. We have a ton in common, I respect him a lot, and he is a lot like me...I think he's a sweetheart, but obviously I'm not looking for a really serious boyfriend right now. So what's the etiquette with a friends with benefits situation? We've been fwb for like eight years now and so far we get along fine, so I guess it's ok, but he actually called me the night after he left to tell me he had a good time, awww. It couldn't have been much cuter if he had written me a note thanking me for having him as a guest :). So, I don't know what to do--why do I have to pick just one guy? Do I, or is it okay for some people not to be monogamous? Is it okay for me to be involved with other people while still thinking there might be a chance with my ex sometime in the near future? (it's not possible now). I could really use some more advice, thank you guys so much.
[QUOTE=Veronica_Mars]Hi everyone and thanks again. You all have helped me in different ways because I can have trouble viewing these things objectively without advice, but it's hard for me to confide in any one person about these matters because I don't want to be judged.

So this situation is a tad more complicated than I explained before. As you know my ex is H, but there is also a guy named J from my college in the picture, as well as now another very old high school friend, B, who I have been hanging out with recently. Three guys, probably not good, but I'm not sure if there will be overlap or not. OK, so J is going to move in a few months, around the same time H will be moving back here. B is already here and will probably stay here; I am super close with his family in addition to just him.

I forgot to tell you some stuff about me and H that might present obstacles. First of all, I think he either STRONGLY suspects or outright knows that I cheated on him toward the end of our official relationship. Second, his older brother, who is kind of a crackhead, I'm not sure how much they tell each other, knows that I have hooked up with some other guys we both know. I am not sure if that affects the way H views me and our situation, but it certainly could be having some impact. On the other hand, he could just have stopped talking to me. I guess only time will tell.

Also, I like this other friend of mine, B, quite a bit. In fact he spent the night with me over the weekend (don't judge please), and we had an amazing time. We have a ton in common, I respect him a lot, and he is a lot like me...I think he's a sweetheart, but obviously I'm not looking for a really serious boyfriend right now. So what's the etiquette with a friends with benefits situation? We've been fwb for like eight years now and so far we get along fine, so I guess it's ok, but he actually called me the night after he left to tell me he had a good time, awww. It couldn't have been much cuter if he had written me a note thanking me for having him as a guest :). So, I don't know what to do--why do I have to pick just one guy? Do I, or is it okay for some people not to be monogamous? Is it okay for me to be involved with other people while still thinking there might be a chance with my ex sometime in the near future? (it's not possible now). I could really use some more advice, thank you guys so much.[/QUOTE]

I'm confused, H is the one you're deeply in love with right? The one from HS, the nerdy guy? As I recall from your old posts, you have cheated a lot on other ex-bfs as well right? Now if he knows (why would you cheat on him though if he was such a great guy according to you, many old ex-bfs was great as well from what you said and yet, you contiune to cheat on them as well?) you have cheated on him, then your chance of getting back with him is pretty slim. Your situation is quite complicated in your bf/gf area and I am not sure what to say at this point. I don't understand how you can be in love with him if you had cheated on him. To be honest, knowing all of that, that kind of behavior you do just sadden me.





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