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ok,, i would like everyones opinion thanks,, ive written about this girl before im at the end of my rope giving it one more shot.. maybe lose a close friend maybe turn into more than friend ,, who know have to see where fate leaves me.....
friend of 15 years we have always been there for each other always talked on reg basis 3-4-times a week if not more,, even while having b/f -g/f... have hooked up randomly in the past while single... oppertunity may have been there years ago but never persued it.. can be shy at times....

we ended up with other people didnt tell each other for months after that.... were in 5 year relationshsips which have bolth ended...she got ingaged it took her a MONTH to tell me ..... i heard it from someone else before.. and to say we talk a couple of times a week.... she was supppost to get married last oct... broke up before the best thing that could ever happen to her.. i was talking to three girls at the time,, dropped them all to be there for her , it was a bad break up..
so she was calling me like 3 times a day on average.. so 2 or so months go by.. we started hanging out alot movies dinner i was paying she was tight with money taking over there place by herself.... i wasnt sleeping with her ,,, she was throwing it at me here and there - said alot of things about me and her ...mom said stuff to me... friends said stuff to me.. im not going to get into stuff said unless someone wants to know its going to be a long as it is...made some moves... kissed me a couple of times but i stopped it before it led to anything ..... i refused to be a rebound ,, or fill a void in her life ,, the only way is if she wanted this to progress into anything,, im not going to lose a best friend becasue of sex ,, i have fwbs for that if that want i want.... as a matter of fact there was this girl i was hanging out with just for fun,, she asked me not to see her anymore early on so and threw a fit over it ... so i dropped her...

heres my problem...... i gave her her time and space ,, she also lost a brother in the past year,, and mom is cheating .. so i know there is issues and wnated to show her something different... she is very insecure and very needy, so i come to notice in the past 4 months.. she needs attention from other guys, never used to be like this.... i felt i was doing the right thing by not sleeping with her an waiting around untill she is ready... {im not normally like this but she IS my BEST friend and i wanted to respect her ,, and we do talk 2-3 times a day..
so it all started she was giving her # out getting calls all the time texts non stop... pretty sure she was occasionally hanging out with this 1 guy and sleeping with him... never knew for sure... almost positive though.. then there was another guy i beleive was the same not sure though.. then i found out she took a half hour trip to visit an ex boyfriend that i knew was back for an alumni weekend... and my friend was there also and he saw them doing it first hand ,, then to top it off another firend of mine went to a game a couple of weeks ago and his bother friend was there with her,, he asked her to go he says they have been talking/ dating since january..she also got jelious of something....some other girl was at the game smacked his *** so she got all jelious over it or something.. she asked me to a wedding at the end of april so i dont know?
i asked her about the game and dating him,, she says they are just "friends" {heard that before} and have been for a long time,, she is not dating or with anyone... swore up and down ,, i havent told her i know about her sleeping with the ex ,, and im sure she is sleeping with this guy also if he says they ahve been dating since jan,, i wanted to talk to him before her ...so i had all the facts and knew when she was lying.....
i had a talk with her 2 weeks ago ,, before the baseball game and i knew about this other guy and - before i found out about her sleeping with her ex....
I told her im curious about us,, told her she has said alot of things to me to make it seem she feels the same way , and i didnt know what she meant of it or...what was her insecurities.. told her the only resaon i didnt sleep with her is because i was respecting her , and have been there all her life and knew about everything she has gone thru , and was waiting untill she was ready,, she started to open up about some things,, made a comment that it was special and means alot to her if a guy was still hanging around and not sleeping with her while other guys will stop calling....


but anyway she is single and allowed to do what she wants so if she wants to go sleep with people i guess she technically is NOT doing "anything" wrong.. but i kind felt she did me wrong by somewhat leading me on and as a best friend she is hiding stuff from me that she never would have before with other guys,, we hung out alot from sept unitll last week of april ... so i dont know where sh had the time to be doing all of this stuff , and whatever it was -- was casual ,, but there were times i asked her to do something and i thaught it was a bogus excuse.....I did the opposite ive been single 6 months before her so i went thru this stage and now know what i want,, she also pulled the same thing 6 years ago whens he broke up with her last serious boyfriend,, but when she is with someone,, she is all about them....

but anyway i wanted to write this before i had a serious talk with her ,, i just wanted opinions ,, i never had the heart to heart conversation...... with her but i will shortly as it is i havent talked to her in over a week.. she called me a bunch of times but ive been pissed ever since ive found out about her sleeping with her ex and this guy who says he's been her since jan...... she has gotten so jelious of other girls. in the past 8 months that she had no reason to be jelious over ,,,,, but then i find out about all the other guys.....???





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