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I have been here reading everyones posts just to keep me busy and to see if I can help with some advice. I have noticed that alot of women are suffering with the selfesteem issue after a breakup. How is it that we seem to lose our self esteem when a guy turns his back? Why is it that we become weak I wish I could regain this peice of me back so that I could continue moving on. And why is it that women tend to hurt more then the guys do? Fibrana has been dealing with her breakup for 5 weeks now thats a long time for anyone to hurt in their hearts and try to goto work and be 100% women at the same time.

bluelani
[QUOTE=Bluelani]I have been here reading everyones posts just to keep me busy and to see if I can help with some advice. I have noticed that alot of women are suffering with the selfesteem issue after a breakup. How is it that we seem to lose our self esteem when a guy turns his back? Why is it that we become weak I wish I could regain this peice of me back so that I could continue moving on. And why is it that women tend to hurt more then the guys do? Fibrana has been dealing with her breakup for 5 weeks now thats a long time for anyone to hurt in their hearts and try to goto work and be 100% women at the same time.

bluelani[/QUOTE]

It's weird. I guess I'm not a normal guy, because I take breakups or rejections extremely hard. My guy friends think I'm weak because of it.

I feel pretty destroyed right now personally.
[QUOTE=Bluelani]I have been here reading everyones posts just to keep me busy and to see if I can help with some advice. I have noticed that alot of women are suffering with the selfesteem issue after a breakup. How is it that we seem to lose our self esteem when a guy turns his back? Why is it that we become weak I wish I could regain this peice of me back so that I could continue moving on. And why is it that women tend to hurt more then the guys do? Fibrana has been dealing with her breakup for 5 weeks now thats a long time for anyone to hurt in their hearts and try to goto work and be 100% women at the same time.

bluelani[/QUOTE]

Good question!

IMHO, I think it's the way women or I should say girls are raised and the "programming" we receive as young girls. We were or are programmed that we "need" men in our lives to be able to complete... we have movies like Jerry McGuire that sends messages to women that we need a man to be able to raise a well-adjusted kid. I understand about being in love... but what I'm talking about here is plain programming of young girls. However, lately, I'm seeing more movies that depicts women as strong, independent and successful and young girls today are receiving that message. However, there are still plenty of women out there who are raising young girls as they were raised. The cycle will continue until someone stops that sort of message. And besides, breaking up is never easy. No matter who initiates the break up, it's still a form of rejection. Especially if the heart has had a few scars from past break ups. As we get older, there are things that gets easier and breaking up is not one of them.

I hope I was able to give you some insight. :D





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