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Re: Breaking Up?
Jul 7, 2006
[QUOTE=Veronica_Mars]Hey Mike, what ever ended up happening with these girls? I'm still curious![/QUOTE]

Thanks for your reply :-) There's actually been a lot going on!

For the past few days, I've been trying to break up with Elizabeth. She seems like a very desprite person, saying she cannot live without me, and that her life sucks, etc etc. I just couldn't take this and she spent HOURS on the phone trying to convence me to stay with her talking about all the good times, etc and how she is getting help. However, honestly, I lost feelings for her a while back because of her emotional problems... It just kept pushing me away. I lost 10 lbs since I dated her because of being so stressed from her I just couldn't eat. I'm glad I lost the weight as I've been needing/wanting to, however, not eating for a few day's at a time was not fun, and vomiting sucked. I also couldn't take the fact that she was not responceable with money whatso ever, and I got myself in a deep hole because of all that. Elizabeth was getting at the point where she was stalking me... which I don't like.. I just wanted her to let go and be done with us. Finally she did come around, but I'm not holding my breath...

Jessica... I should've made more details. Yes, she got VERY Drunk that night.. however, there were sober people to take care of the baby, not everyone was drinking, and the baby was sleeping the entire time anyway. As for the drinking part, I don't agree with her driving, however, the good side of the whole thing is... She does not drink, this was only the 2nd time she's had a drink in her life and she even said she won't be drinking again.. She just does it when she's around her dad (which is not very often) and he's pushing her buttons.

Anyway, I'm sure most of you know I was pretty worried about her.. I never heard from her Sunday (We hung out on Saturday) which was when we were supposed to go on a date. I finally got a phone call from her on the 4th of july (Tuesday) and she said she was doing okay and that she was spending the 4th of july with her mom and to give her a call on her cell phone. So I called her and she was pretty busy and couldn't really talk and said she would call me back when she got home. Well, She didn't call back that night or the next day. This is where I thought it was over, because she didn't wanna talk much, and she said she would call me back and never did. I figured maybe she was just calling to let me know she was fine and that was it.

Well, Thursday evening, she called out of the blue and we got a chance to talk a while. She said the reason she didn't call for a few days when we were supposed to go on a date was because she had a hang over for 3 days. We then were talking about our jobs and stuff, and she then said "Well, hey, if your not doing anything, you can come over for dinner if you want and if you hurry, we can go rent a movie" So I ran over there, we went to the movie store and rented a movie. During the trip to/from the movie place, she said she left part of her swimsuite at my aunts house that night.. and she said "I don't know why I took them off in the first place" and I said "I thought you'd be worried that I tried to take advantage of you or something" and she said "I'm the one who took advantage of you..." and we didn't say much else after that. When we got back to the house, we watched the movie and ate dinner.. She seemed really distant from me and quite. We didn't hold hands, or do much of anything.. I gave her a hug before I left and tried to kiss her, but she didn't want a kiss so I just left it be. I then told her I could go over my aunts house and pickup her swimsuite for her because she was going on a job thing to a waterpark Saturday. I also asked her if she wanted to try to go bowling (date) this sunday since we didn't make it last weekend and she said sure.

So tonight, I went to pick it up, visited my aunts and uncles while I was over in Gulf Breeze then went to her house. Amanda (her baby sitter/friend which was sober last weekend at the party) was there visiting as well, so we all hung out and talked for a while. Jessica seemed a lot more friendly to me and we talked a lot more and she seemed more relaxed around me. I only stayed 20 min's as it was kinda late and I had some stuff to take care of at home... but when I left I gave her a huge and she gave me a longer/stronger hug this time. As I was walking out the door she also checked with me about going on a date sunday (bowling and stuff) and asked if my mom was still okay to babysit. She said to call her when I wake up on sunday, and she said she would call me but she knows she would get up before me.. lol.

So that's the next step... going out on Sunday. I'm really hoping this works out and I honestly think that the reason she may have been so distant latly was because she could've been embarrassed/felt guility of what happened last weekend. From my understanding, she has a low self esteem because she's been hurt by a lot of guys in the past, including her sons dad (he disappeared when she got pregnet) So I think what may have happened was she prolly though she gave me the wrong impression, like she was a "****" or something and was thinking I wouldn't want to be with her because of that.

I like Jessica a lot... She's a very independent person (lives alone while supporting her son) works a steady/good job, she doesn't like to party/club and she is very happy just sitting at home watching movies (which I REALLY like a lot) and she doesn't like to drink. She's also a bit on the quite side and doesn't have a huge social life which I like A LOT... She's a very calm person like me...

So right now, I'm not exactly sure what she want's... but I do hope this turns into something. I do like her a lot and enjoy being around her. She's been through a lot in the past (hurt by boyfriends, she was also seriously into drugs very badly around a year ago)

So I don't know, We'll see :-) What do you guys think?
Re: Breaking Up?
Jul 8, 2006
[QUOTE=M1K3L]I honestly think that the reason she may have been so distant latly was because she could've been embarrassed/felt guility of what happened last weekend. From my understanding, she has a low self esteem because she's been hurt by a lot of guys in the past, including her sons dad (he disappeared when she got pregnet) So I think what may have happened was she prolly though she gave me the wrong impression, like she was a "****" or something and was thinking I wouldn't want to be with her because of that.[/QUOTE]
Maybe she is just more comfortable about herself when she is around other people. I know I am quite shy, and it is easier for me to be more relaxed and receptive to new people when I am in a setting with other people who I already know and am already comfortable with.





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