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[QUOTE=GypsyArcher]You just don't have what it takes to be a mistress, so you are in over your head. A successful mistress gets lots of gifts, goes on expense trips, and then when she is apart from the guy, she doesn't stress. Rather, she enjoys the independence and time apart. Most importantly, she knows how to play the game. On the other hand, it sounds like you are in love with this guy and want to be number one in his life. Not good at all. You don't understand how the married man/mistress dynamic works. He's with you for the thrill, for the something different, and most importantly, for the sex. You don't get involved with married men looking for any kind of emotional fullfilment, heavens no. That is what a boyfriend is for.[/QUOTE]
wow... reading this post made me cringe...
instead of justifying being someone's "mistress" and condoning this type of behavior, i'll go ahead and say it is VERY wrong to be involved with a married man, REGARDLESS of how "good" you are at it...
you can't possibly think that there is a potential "happy ending" to this story... not realistically... and you have to know that people are going to be hurt one way or the other...
this is dictionary definition of a BAD idea and you should get out as soon as possible...

[QUOTE=sad woman]Hi I'd like to share w you my relationship w a married man w 2kids. In Jun 20,2006 we broke off. We've been together for 2 1/2yrs, he shower me w alot love & care. I went oversea to be w him once a month when he's on his business trip for a year in Vietnam. When he was in Singapore, we see each other most of our evening & spend our time till late night. when come to weekend, he'll spend time w his kids. He had a few times quarrel w his wife over us but he did not admit our relationship to his wife. I got pregnant after a yrs & went for abortion. After abortion he's fairly ok....We move on day by days..... ard end of 2nd yrs his change after he came back from his overseas assignment & he change to a new job. from day to day we meet, slowly change to 3times a week, 2times a week, Once a week..... partly his busy schedule w work had make us apart. It fine & I purely understand his job nature make him hv really no time for anything. We sms each other everyday from morning, lunch, evening & night. His company had some changes begining of this yrs, so he quit & change job. With this current job he has is not busy at all, tot tat he shd hv more time for me & kids but Im wrong...... slow he gets to know that he miss his kids alot more & felt tat he shd spend more time with his kids. Everyday I wait for his call & hope that he would put me in his schedule but slowly he make himself not available most of the time till the day which was 20, June 2006 i make a big fuss w him over the phone asking him is it that we're not meet up anymore. He answer was " Yes" we'll not meet up anymore, I broke down & I really love him alot..... & I take care of him well. Even my friends has fully agreed tat Im a very "gd wife" to him. After the broke up, we met up 2 times. The end result was he feel for the kids & need to go back to his kids & not so much for his wife. "Believe" not so much for his wife...... I dun believe at all, man need a woman ok..... till today I still miss him alot, tears during my sleep. SMS him to show my care for him but no reply most of the time. Ive put in my whole heart for him..... but at the end his still choose to go back. I feel veri lonely without him. With this experience, I learn alot & I know married man cannot be trusted by their beautiful words. In 2days time(23 sept) it my birthday, Im hoping to spend my birthday with him as Ive requested him to spend w me during our last phone call. End August he called me and was told he plan to go BKK w his dad during 21-22 Sept, I told him it was near to my b'day, He soundly veri nicely & happily telling me that trip not confirm still can make plan for it. Sms him on Tuesday knowing that he is flying off to bkk in the afternoon and I got so upset & I knew he has no plan to spend time w me this two days. After reading yr posting, my advise to you.... pls do not involve w married man, no result & will get yrself hurt.... true enough.... I got myself so hurt till today, now Im still tearing & hoping that he'll call me. really not worth it at all to get yrself hurt. Leave him alone & stay far away. Im trying veri hard too but I cant get out totally. His name " Jason " was so common, it always remind me when I reply email to our overseas principle name "Jason". sign..... I also need expertise to advise me.

sad woman[/QUOTE]
and while this might actually be the most difficult post i've ever tried to read (because of all the "text message" abbreviation going on... or should i say "txt msg" abb... lol), it almost sounds like you're looking for advice on how to get him to pay more attention to you...
you talk about how you're actually upset that he chose his family over you...
are you willing and content to live with potentially destroying this man's family and leaving a permanent scar on his children???... if so, then there's probably not much in the way of advice that any of us can give you...
you too, should try to move on, and get out of this situation as soon as possible... once again... nothing good can come of it...

just my $0.02





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