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This is kind of complicated, so let me see if I can articulate this well enough for people to understand!

My roommate's ex-boyfriend and my current boyfriend were friends before either of them started dating us because they were from the same town and had hung out quite a few times with mutual friends. My roommate had been dating her boyfriend for about 3 years and I started dating my boyfriend a year ago. She and her bf were involved in a long distance relationship, but my bf went to the same college as us, so we were in the same town.

Towards the end of last year, my roommate started hanging out with another guy, while simultaneously still dating her long-term long-distance bf. This other guy would walk her home on weekend nights, they would talk about their feelings for each other, hold hands, etc. My boyfriend was witness to all of this as he often came home with me and saw what was going on.

For graduation, my roommate's bf booked a (very expensive) flight to come and watch her graduate. We all went out that night, but he was tired from his flight and slept in her bed while we all went to the bar. While at the bar, she met the other guy she had been hanging out with, and proceeded to hold hands with him, sit on his lap, etc. He even walked her home, all while her boyfriend was sleeping in her bed. My boyfriend was with us the whole time and of course saw everything. Two weeks later, my roommate broke up with her boyfriend (finally).

A month later, she called me, telling me that she had just talked to her ex, and he told her he knew about everything (the other guy, the fact that she was all over him at the bar while he was asleep in her bed, etc.). She was livid and didn't know who told him, but the only thing she could think of was that it was my boyfriend, since he saw everything. She asked me to tell him to please keep his mouth shut and mind his own business, which I agreed that I would. I called my bf and asked him if it was him who told, and he said that it wasn't. My roommate has asked me about it several times since, and I have said honestly that i had no idea who told.

well, last night my boyfriend finally admitted that it WAS him who told--he ran into her ex at a bar. her ex said that he "knew something was going on," and my bf told him the story because he thought that he had a right to know.

i'm in kind of a dilemma now because i KNOW my roommate will ask me again, and should i lie to protect my boyfriend or should i tell her the truth? if i tell her the truth, she will hate him and I will be expected to be mad at him too. The only reason I am mad at him is because he lied to me in the first place. Also, we are all going to be together this weekend for the first time since graduation, and I'm afraid my aggressive roommate is going to confront my boyfriend, and I will be expected to take sides. I really, really don't want any drama between the two, and I really don't want to be in the middle, which I already am, unfortunately. Any opinions on this?





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