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Thank you to all that have replied so far.. and for backing me up!!

I'm 23, he's 21 and she's about 20. They have been broken up for over 3 years, and went out for about a year. Him and I are only going on 7 months.

His only real arguements are that she means it as a friend, and that he doesn't want to deal with the confrontation. To that I let him know he was either going to have to deal with confronting her, or me confronting him.. or her if i have to!!

He says he understands and agrees that its uncalled for on her part, and that he should once again talk to her about it.. he just doesn't want to deal with her b****ing about it.. which i say is horsesh*t!!

I tried telling him that girls and guys think very differently about things, and he doesn't believe me when I say she's still hung up on him. Ugh! Guys!!

He recently told her that I didn't like that she says it. Of course now I'm the "crazy jealous girlfriend" and shes still the good friend! Grr.. But the true test now.. if she really does just love him as a friend, then she'll have the respect for him, and me, not to say it now that she knows how i feel. If she still does... then she's still an ex who can't move on.. and I may have to step in a say something myself!!

Thanks agian.. venting is helpful, and so are outside oppinions!
[QUOTE=jen52983]He recently told her that I didn't like that she says it. Of course now I'm the "crazy jealous girlfriend" and shes still the good friend! Grr.. But the true test now.. if she really does just love him as a friend, then she'll have the respect for him, and me, not to say it now that she knows how i feel. If she still does... then she's still an ex who can't move on.. and I may have to step in a say something myself!![/QUOTE]

This is a very good point. If she loved him only as a friend, out of respect for her friendship and for her friend's new love, she would stop saying it if it bothered you.

I definately don't think you're the crazy jealous girlfriend -- I think it is more than she's the crazy ex who can't move on -- but I suppose if she stops insisting that 'I love you' is a part of her friendship with your man, then you don't have much to worry about. The fact that they need to continue a friendship to me seems a bit odd, and his loyalties should reside with you.

I also think that if they were just friends and that was their only intention, that she would want to develop a friendship with you as well. Strictly platonic guy and girl friend relationships are kind of like brother and sister relationships, and usually a sister wants to get to know her brother's new woman.

I was a bit jealous of my BF's one good gal pal during the first year of our relationship. While they had never been romantically involved, you could tell they did (and still do) care about each other. And they had known each other since 5th grade. I think she could sense I was a bit worried and what happened was she started to ask me to go do things with her -- just the two of us, girl things. And today, we hang out and talk more than her and my BF, and I'm going to be in her wedding next year (so is my BF). That is how a healthy friendship should be. Oh, and they don't say 'I love you' to each other, even though I know there is a friend-love there.





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