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There are still quite a few of my boyfriend's friends who I haven't met, because we have a long distance relationship and only see each other on the weekends, and his friends are away at college. They are all going to be back for Christmas break, and my boyfriend wants me to meet them. Yes, apparently they tolerate his cousin's behavior. I don't think they are as rude and crazy as his cousin, but they put up with his behavior, which really gets me. In fact, EVERYONE puts up with this kid's behavior. It is a constant source of tension between me and my boyfriend because while my boyfriend consistently agrees that his cousin is an idiodic, out of control jerk, he bails him out of trouble time and time again and keeps hanging out with him. I know they are family, but come on. Even this kid's MOM lets him get away with his behavior--she is first hand witness to much of it, and he gets no reprimand at all from her (he is 23, so she can't really do much, but I would expect that if he acts like a child, he can be treated like one too).

The way I was brought up is, if you screw up, you take responsibility for your actions and handle the consequences yourself. This guy suffers minor, if any, consequences and refuses to take any responsibility. This is mean, but I was hoping he got a DUI instead of reckless op for driving drunk, but alas, he got a slap on the wrist, had to pay a fine, and is off the hook. I wish my boyfriend would stop hanging out with him altogether, because I feel that as long as he is there for him, his cousin's behavior won't stop. My boyfriend claims that he is the only true friend his cousin has, and while he can't stand his behavior, he can't just sit back and watch him self-destruct because he is family, and he believes that he has some sort of psychological disorder that is way past the norm and is the cause for much of his behavior.

I didn't mean to make it sound like my boyfriend is OK with his behavior--he has talked to him about it, YELLED at him about it, and explained to him that since he can't respect me, he is not going to be around him when I am in town. That held true for about two weeks, before this whole "I want you to meet my friends" thing came up. I am in a hard position because while I feel liek I owe it to him to meet his friends, I don't want to let his cousin off the hook AGAIN.





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