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The first few guys I dated weren't considered attractive, but that's not why I went out with them. The first one I really liked because he made me laugh, like a lot, and I really loved his sense of humor. To this day, we remain friends, although the relationship part didn't work out, and he still makes me laugh! I just hope that his wife knows how funny he is, because he deserves to be with someone who will appreciate his humor.

The second guy wasn't much to look at either, but he still had confidence. You'd be surprised how far confidence will get you. I'm not saying he was arrogant, because that's different. He just knew who he was and what he was about, and didn't let anyone else's opinions of him change who he was. I thought that was pretty cool. That one unfortunately ended because he cheated on me, and it was with a girl who was actually prettier than me, so that blows your theory right out the window.

As it has already been posted, women aren't as hung up on looks as men. That's not to say that there are some women who are completely superficial and only go for the really hot looking guys. Sure there are those out there. But most normal women who really just want a great guy they can depend on and who is right for them don't use looks as the one and only factor for whether or not they'll date someone. Most normal women just want a guy who is not a player or a cheater, and they are more interested in personality and whether or not the guy is capable of expressing himself and communicate well.

Besides, you're still really young, you've got plenty of time to find a girlfriend. When you get older, you'll see the more mature women like guys based on who they are, not who they look like. That is a fact.
I too dated my fair share of what most women would not consider the most attractive men. It's not all about looks for me. I find that really attractive guys have huge egos and turn out to be total *$$holes!

Don't sell yourself short, personality goes a long way. Personally, I find a sense of humor to be one of the most attractive things about a man. Someone who doesn't take himself too seriously and can roll with the punches. My husband is tall, very thin, has a larger nose, and tends to wear a lot of "grandpa" sweaters, but he can always make me laugh and he treats me like a princess. I wouldn't trade that in for Matt Damon, Brad Pitt, or any one of those other guys.

Hygeine does go a long way with how you feel about yourself. I find that most women think if I guy doesn't do the basics like shower, shave, and brush his teeth that they just don't have a lot of confidense or self esteem which I find unattractive. So if you aren't already doing these basics this will help. Also, when you are out watch your body language. Stand tall, make eye contact, and SMILE!!!!!

I'm sure you're not even half as bad as you are making yourself out to be. You say it's not a confidense thing, but I totally think it is.

Best of luck to you!!!!!!!!!

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