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do you go to the gym? do you wear cologne? how do you fix your hair? What I am getting at is that if you did certain things, like have good hygiene, you will feel good about the way you look. People will respond to you better, and next thing you know---BAM! You've got a lady friend! Guys have much easier than girls. You can get a nice polo shirt and khakis at wal-mart. I'm telling you,: Take a shower. Shave. Brush your teeth. Put some gel in your hair. Pat a little aftershave on your face. Spray your body with a little Aqua di Gio. Put on clean boxers w/ no holes in 'em. Put on matching socks. Put on khaki pants, a white undershirt, and a nice polo shirt. If you have a watch, like a silver, fancy, bulky looking watch (Can also be purchased at wal-mart), put it on, too. Wear a pair of solid colored shoes (black or brown will do fine, whichever matches your top). and last but not least, SMILE:). And you're set. People will be drawn to you. This formula is fail proof.

Don't forget to life weights 2-3x/wk. I am not saying that people have to look a certain way to be loved, I am just saying you sound desperate and rather than give you words about loving yourself inside and out and how girls your age are immature, i'm telling you ACTIONS. Do it. PLEASE. For two weeks. Let us know what happens.

If you get dressed and don't have anywhere to go, or anyone to hang out with, go grocery shopping, walk around the mall as if you are looking for something in particular, etc. Is there a topic you are interested in? Go to the mall/borders/etc. and meander around the bookstore. Girls dig smart guys, or guys who read, guys who have an interest that he can teach her about. Purchase the book, and enjoy the improved you that is getting a life and moving out of your self-pity. If you still don't have any hits, keep trying. Keep goign to the bookstore, or wherever. If you can't afford to buy a book, then just look at the magazines and don't buy one. And don't look at the porno mags, either. It needs to be something else.

You'll see. Trust me on this.

(I have a very close friend who every guy she has dated fits this description. And every single one of these guys is chock full of flaws---some have been mean to her, too quiet, INCREDIBLY overweight, etc.)Act like you are a catch, and someone will want to hang on!

And don't worry about being inexperienced. I have never met a female who resented a guy for being inexperienced. In fact, they have prefered it. You have a good thing going for you. Be careful with it.
Talking generally? Physically what do men and women find beautiful? Of course this varies and everyone has their own likes and dislikes....but I have a theory.

Underneath it all, on a purely physical level I believe that women are attracted to handsome male faces, and men are more attracted to female bodies.

Think about it. Men will look at and be attracted to an average or even ugly woman with a nice body. While for a woman to consider a man HOT, he has to have a handsome face. Even an average or ugly guy with a GREAT body won't be considered HOT by women in general.

I think this is the big difference between men and women on a physical level. I wish it was the other way around. Because you can change a body by working out, but you are kinda stuck with your face. So in that regard, women have it ALOT easier. Men are far less picky. While women are MUCH more picky.

I know this seems opposite of what is normally believed. Men get a bad rap for being shallow. But women are even more so.

Again think about it. If a woman has ONE nice bodily feature, or works out...MEN will think she is HOT. That is a huge boost in her ego, and women do have an easy power over men. I truly believe that the pressure women feel is not from men. This is a lie. I believe women put pressure on other women. They compete and cause their own pain.

While men are stuck with the face they are given. If they are average or ugly...they can work out all they want. They can have an olympic athletes body, and they will never be looked at as HOT by women in general. The ONLY way to make women look at them differently would be if they were rich or famous. But take away that fame or money, and they'd go back to being average joes.

THIS is the big difference between men and women. An average or even ugly woman who has a nice body will be LUSTED after. So in this way, women have it alot easier. Men in general will pay them attention and consider them HOT and SEXY. They don't need to be rich or famous. Something as simple as a nice body, boobs, butt or legs will get a woman noticed.

Most Women have this INCREDIBLE power over men. Their enemy is not men. The only thing they fear is getting older. Age slowly takes their sexual power away. Many women blame men for then being shallow(only wanting young women). But for most of their young lives they had SUPREME power over men. Men are the ones who faced rejection, pain and suffering. So to suddenly loose that power, many women blame men. I think this is unfair. I think the happiest women are the ones who treat men nicely and don't abuse their sexual power when they are younger. That way when they get older, they won't feel bad when their sexual power begins to fade.
dobedobedo I don't think your right...you sound very bitter about women. Women don't only look for good looking rich men and not give average men a chance. If I was to be totally critical of the men I've dated I would say yes some were good looking but the guy I married (though I find him sexy and handsome) if he was rated by anyone else he's average tall but thin receeding hair line etc. What draws women to him still and when we were dating(it was ridculous he use to get hit on right in front of me) is his attitude he's confident funny and has charisma. Yes be clean try and dress nice but try and be confident too. Looks aren't everything and in the end they are not what will keep a girl around. Looks are the instant attraction sure but there has to be something after that. If you don't have the instant attraction then you know what girls you meet and talk to etc will see that in time and be drawn to you, you'll build a relationship rather than just have physical. I think what takes a guy from average to sexy is attitude





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