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I completely understand you not just wanting to ignore her, but sometimes that is the best solution. She is acting the way she is because she is jealous of you having her ex. In her twisted little mind she thinks that if she keeps acting this way it will scare you off and then she wins. Your boyfriend has cut all contact with her right? If not, I would demand that ASAP. Normally I wouldn't be one to say that, but given her actions I think it's needed. Hopefully once she realizes that all she is doing isn't going to affect your relationship she will move on with her life (or lack there of) and leave you two alone.

Honestly, as tough as it will be try your hardest to ignore her. Unless she somehow attacks you physically don't give her the time of day. And, if she does pull something that juvenille, call the police and press charges. Don't stoop to her level and you will look even better in your boyfriend's eyes.

Good luck this weekend!
I have a similar situation, just not as extreme. My BF is also still friends with an ex who is still attached. He remains friends for the same reason, they grew up together.

I think both of our guys need to realize that sometimes some people just aren't healthy to keep as friends. A real friend wouldn't want to hurt someone they care about. If she really cared about his friendship she would want to get to know you right?!

At least your BF recognizes that she is a problem. (My boyfriend thinks I'm crazy!)

I don't think there is really anything YOU can do. Your boyfriend, being her friend, needs to really talk to her about backing off, and moving on, and to just get over it really. It may help if you meet his ex.

If him talking to her, and ignoring her childish, jealous behavior doesn't calm her down.. then you could always press harrassment charges or something. Not that you want to go that far, but unless she does something even more drastic, I think your options are limited.

she's jealous. she needs to get over it. I think that's probably something she'll only really be able to do on her own. Hopefully your boyfriend will realize sooner than later, that she is a bad friend and not worth keeping around. Maybe he needs to give her an ultimatum (spell check!?)

I would ask him to talk to her about her actions. Let him know (if he doesnt already) that it is really effecting your relationship, and that if keeping her "friendship" is more important than his relationship with you, then maybe he can't have both.

Good luck.





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