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Okay, so I did it against all the advice; you think now at 27 I would have more sense. We took it slow, realized we do work together; kept it quiet and then slowly it came out at work. Things moved really fast and out of the blue he pulls the "This is moving too fast, I don't want a relationship" and cuts me off. After he was the one who pursued me; and promised all kinds of BS. We hung out everyday and he was spending the night at my place or me at his everynight. This lasted about 2 months. In fact we booked a trip to Vegas together in Feb; that I have now cancelled and owe a $200 cancellation fee. Which he is paying back..SLOWLY. Anyway, I can't seem to get this guy out of my head. Every freaking day at work there he is. We tried the "friends" thing, but things got so ugly this week that we ended up in a shouting match in the parking lot of work. How lame?!?! So now we aren't speaking at all. I miss his friendship dearly; have expressed this to him; but unfortantely I seemed to be the only one making the effort and being sensitive to every action and everything he says (due to him breaking up with me) it only made it harder. I wish I never dated him. I'm cut off from a huge circle of friends at work due to they are much closer with him and I guess can't invite me out anymore which sucks as well. I feel like I lost a friend and a group of friends overnight. This happened a couple weeks ago and now its got to the point where we went off on one another and can't even talk. So if this was outside of work one would just move forward. I am moving forward, even dating and whatever but seeing him EVERYDAY at work. Since day one we had a thing for each other. Does this go away? Will my heart stop coming to a stand still when I hear his voice or he passes me in the hall? It sucks to be so close to someone like they are your best friend and then walk pass them acting like you barely know each other; yet just weeks ago were sharing intimate secrets with one another. So any advice? I love my job, but I want to get over him; pass him and feel nothing. The drama sucks. My job performace isn't great lately and I have learned first hand to NEVER date someone at work. Will my feelings for him disappear in time? I just don't know how much more I can take.
[QUOTE=elatedgiraffe;2754297]Okay, so I did it against all the advice; you think now at 27 I would have more sense. We took it slow, realized we do work together; kept it quiet and then slowly it came out at work. Things moved really fast and out of the blue he pulls the "This is moving too fast, I don't want a relationship" and cuts me off. After he was the one who pursued me; and promised all kinds of BS. We hung out everyday and he was spending the night at my place or me at his everynight. This lasted about 2 months. In fact we booked a trip to Vegas together in Feb; that I have now cancelled and owe a $200 cancellation fee. Which he is paying back..SLOWLY. Anyway, I can't seem to get this guy out of my head. Every freaking day at work there he is. We tried the "friends" thing, but things got so ugly this week that we ended up in a shouting match in the parking lot of work. How lame?!?! So now we aren't speaking at all. I miss his friendship dearly; have expressed this to him; but unfortantely I seemed to be the only one making the effort and being sensitive to every action and everything he says (due to him breaking up with me) it only made it harder. I wish I never dated him. I'm cut off from a huge circle of friends at work due to they are much closer with him and I guess can't invite me out anymore which sucks as well. I feel like I lost a friend and a group of friends overnight. This happened a couple weeks ago and now its got to the point where we went off on one another and can't even talk. So if this was outside of work one would just move forward. I am moving forward, even dating and whatever but seeing him EVERYDAY at work. Since day one we had a thing for each other. Does this go away? Will my heart stop coming to a stand still when I hear his voice or he passes me in the hall? It sucks to be so close to someone like they are your best friend and then walk pass them acting like you barely know each other; yet just weeks ago were sharing intimate secrets with one another. So any advice? I love my job, but I want to get over him; pass him and feel nothing. The drama sucks. My job performace isn't great lately and I have learned first hand to NEVER date someone at work. Will my feelings for him disappear in time? I just don't know how much more I can take.[/QUOTE]It's been such a long time! I remember you from my horror story of a work-place romance. I guess eventually, we all get sucked into that. I can tell you that work was a nightmare after the breakup and literally almost caused me to have a full-blown nervous breakdown. It only got better when he quit and moved away. When I was going through my soap opera, everyone here told me that I should quit or hope that he did really soon. I didn't believe it at the time and was stubborn but they were all right. I don't know what to tell you. Good luck and try to distance yourself from this guy as best you can.





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